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    Shoe Addict Paula J's Avatar
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    I used to feel the exact same way. I used to get so nervous and embarrassed just walking through the cosmetics section at Walmart. But with time and experience I've gotten a lot more comfortable with it. I used to think that other customers and sales people would be looking at me and having the worst thoughts. But, my experience has been that 99% of the time, no one even pays the slightest attention to me. There has been the odd time that somebody has given me the 'stink-eye', but it's usually been an older woman, and it could very well be all in my head. I have really found that the younger ones, like 35 and younger, quite literally don't pay any attention whatsoever.

    Also, I love going to some of the second-hand places. There is a huge one near me. I can pick up an armload of women's jeans and go to the change rooms and try them on. No body notices anything out of the ordinary because you just have an armload of jeans. I've even had a couple of mini-skirts mixed in with them before.

    Shoes are a tough one. At least for me. Usually a size 10 women's will fit me. But, I picked a pair of 10w one time at a discount place. They were actually too wide and while they are great for posing and taking some pics, it is impossible to walk gracefully in them, because my heel just moves around too much. And just recently, I bought a pair of 10s, and they were good length-wise but the strappy part that went around above the toe area was just too small and I couldn't get my feet in them. I had to take them back, and the girl in the store, got all b****y with me... I'm sure she suspected that I had bought them for myself... But I don't know. I think some of the shoe places like Aldo, you can order shoes online and then if they don't work out you can return them to the nearest store, so that's what I'm going to try next.
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    New Girl to the PNW raeleen's Avatar
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    You can do it, Veronica! I have purged so many times and the only thing that happens afterwards is regret that I threw away some of my cutest outfits! :P

    Take it slow and just do what you're comfortable with. The advice folks have given is great and you should take what feels right for you and work up to storing/buying what you can. It does get easier. I have always been terrified as well that people are staring at me as I buy a pair of panties or makeup, but I've also come to realize that they don't care. You're one customer in a long line of many, and you're probably not their first!

    Good luck, girl!

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    I think most men find shopping for women's clothing to be a challenge, even when the clothes are for a girlfriend or wife. If you're not into browsing the aisles I would recommend doing some planning with exploring what's available on a store e-commerce site. There are many pre-packaged bras and panties. Shop at a place like Wal-Mart. If you know your size grab a package or box and through it into your shopping cart. It's the same with cosmetics. Then use the self checkout lane. Go when the store has the least customers.

    Next month is Halloween. That is the best time for buying heels and wigs or anything else. I found Halloween was the best time to buy my first wig. And, high heels. I even when as far as to put together a "Come in Drag" party invitation to get my mind in gear.

    Shopping on eBay is easy. Most of the offerings for women's clothing come in plain wrappers or poly "silver bullet" shipping bags. Many sellers say they are discreet. Unless your housemates are into opening mail there should be no problem. USPS tracking is free now, so the vast majority of time you can track the package and see "Out for Deliver." You'll know the day it's coming.

    And, don't forget Christmas. That's a great time for men to buy for their "wives" and "girlfriends." Follow that up with Valentine's Day in February. I bought my first red bra and panty set for my "wife" at Christmas. I still have it, although I've outgrown it. It's a lovely set by Vanity Fair.

    You can do it!

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    it would be a lot easier to pace your male housemates in with the whole thing. start simply wearing something more andro, explain you're trying out different styles not made in mens clothing, it will take months but by the end i'm sure they'll be fine with you fully out - its a lot easier this way than a sudden discovery later on, imho. you'd have much less stress this way.
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    PO box (UPS Store,etc) is great advice, really opens up opportunities. Depending on how far you feel like taking things, a good dressing "transformation " service (if you can find one near you or schedule a trip to one in another area) would be a real eye opener. The best ones are very understanding and you can learn a LOT. Some of them have on-site storage fir very little $, or you can store your girl stuff off-site in a storage locker to safeguard your privacy. It's true that Halloween is a good cover to make you more comfortable buying in stores, and also true, especially in large chain stores, that the sales help could care less who you're buying for..I used to buy guy stuff I actually needed (motor oil, whatever) at the same time as a bra and panties. No reaction whatsoever from the 20-something sales girsl. The more time you spend on this site, you will find links to everything imaginable related to Cd-ing in all its forms. Many on here have been down the same road, and are happy to share knowledge. Don't be afraid to PM people (including me) for more detail on specific questions, you can save yourself a lot of time and stress. Good luck!

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    trying to let it out. Veronica putters's Avatar
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    Oh ya Halloween i never thought about that.. But the thing is i dont want a costume i was looking on amazon last nite and i saw some pin up dresses that were around 50 $$ i dont know if thats a good price but i wanted to get it.I love that pin up look there is a girl at my work that i see once in a while and she has that look and the tattoos i love it That makes me wish i was a girl..

    So i get to dress up once in a blue moon and i have been wanting to try makeup out but i dont know the first thing about it... plus i would need to shave... I have shaved my legs feet and chest and i liked the way they feel...no that winter is on its way i will be doing that once a week or so...

    If anyone has any tips on anything please let me know So far you ladies have been a huge help for me and i thank you all..

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    Hi Veronica,

    Many here have offered you good advice about getting over your shyness of shopping for female clothing. What you have to keep remembering is that as long as you are polite to the SA's, they don't really care. However do stop purging your female wardrobe. It doesn't stop your desire to cross dress and it just prolongs your guilt feelings. Read the many posts here and you will find that you are not alone and not very different to many in this World. Also, go to somewhere like Amazon and look at the many useful books written about cross dressing. If you can afford it, find a good counsellor and talk it over in a professional atmosphere.

    In the meantime; relax and enjoy being a lovely human being with a desire to look pretty and feminine. It's OK!

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