I am 4 but 3 covers a lot.
I am 4 but 3 covers a lot.
I don't wish to change my gender I just want to change my clothes.
Mostly the first, but with a dash of the third.
But then, what girl doesn't want to feel a little sexy once in a while?
Started out 1?accepted 2 was as close as it would ever get?and 3 always had a presence.
Reading all the responses to this so far and also having read about the life experiences of a lot of people on this forum I think it reinforces the idea it is difficult to pigeoen hole many of us strictly into one of the 3 choices and like many things there is a spectrum our personal crossdresing lives fall into. For me there is absolutely none of number one but certainly a mixture of number two and three but skewing towards number three.
Is there room for a fourth reason? How about Gender Envy? This would be where you admire and are envious of - not in a negative way of course - all things feminine or perceived feminine. This would include not only the feminine form and clothing but the position of women in the social/sexual structure of our society - to become the pursued rather than the pursuer. Not a permanent situation at all, but rather a living out of a fantasy. Through crossdressing you might be able to experience some measure of this.
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Hi Kris, I agree but for me gender envy is a part of #2.
If it makes you happy / It can't be that bad
If it makes you happy / Then why the hell are you so sad?
Split between 1 and 2 for me. 3 was only applicable many years ago.
I must say I am quite surprised at the low number of responses claiming #1.
Number 1 has been there from the start, number 2 & 3 came along in my teenage years, as I've gotten older 3 has reduced significantly, 2 has increased and 1 has consistently been there and possibly gotten stronger recently. Similar to Genifer I have no real desire to be manly.
Like most here I'm a mix of 2 and 3. Mostly 3 and has been since I was a teenager but more and more it's the feeling of relaxation that's important.
definitely number 3 was what got me started down this path. Number two started creeping into to the mix later on.
It started as #2 as a child. If only I understood why! Then came puberty and sexual development...chaos ensued so #3 became the driver. I'm back to #2 and over the years I think #1 started to creep in. There's such a stigma attached to the erotic component of CDing I really struggle with accepting this part of myself which lead to me closeting it for decades. This journey has felt like a roller coaster at times. If it were only as easy as ascribing one of these numbers.
Ichigo Ichie...every interaction is once in a life time, unique, and should be cherished. Bring along your En Femme and live with joy.
Love dressing and feeling feminine. Have dysphoria with body hair. Need to be smooth
A combination of the first two. I've always liked girly stuff despite being a boy so that right there was the early sign that maybe I should have been in a different body. I still like girly stuff up to this day and it's always been hard to explain. As for the other one, well there is a certain relief whenever I take some time to dress up and pose around infront of a mirror. It does relax me and allows me to feel more like myself.
Started as #3, but now more #2. It still remains a combination of both.
"When you come to a fork in the road, Take it!" - Yogi Berra
I guess I did!
None of the above boxes, sick and tired of people telling me this is where I fit. Why do people think we have to reside in a place that can easily, and lazily, be explained. Just so people can say they are 1, 2 or 3 and that explains everything! This is a spectrum people, we are all somewhere on it. Don't let the muggles, try to compartmentalize us.
Hugs, Sharon x
Two as I find dressing euphoric. When I was younger, three was an option, but less so as I age.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
Count me among the 3's that evolved into a 2.
My start was at #3 a sexual kink. It was that way for many years.
The last 10 years or so it is now all a #2 as a gender euphoria. I wear panties every day as they fit me better than any men's underwear ever have. I wear a bra in the cooler months as I have "B" cup breasts that are natural and have had since my early teens. I've been divorced for 10 years, so that is a reason I can.
I agree this is at best a generally of something that is a very individual journey. But in the most general terms. I was a 3 before the age of knowing the so-called kink of it. I got caught a couple of times and beat for it. That only made me better at hiding my unexplained attraction. My 2 years have fallen to just plain old comfort. With years of a lower back injury thin waste jeans riding right in the worst possible position. I found the girl high wasted tights, leggings skirts just plain old felt better to wear. My senior years in the feminine has been better accepted in caregiver role for a wife with dementia. It?s really hard to pigeonhole one individual journey.
Hugs Rochal
Ive always been somewhere between 2 and 3.
At the moment its far nearer 2 but 3 is still there, but 2 is more important to me.
I enjoy 3 all the same but its more of an secondary reason i suppose, as in the urge to dress up is firmly in section 2,
Its more like 2, but 3 kicks in at the end.
Im not sure, who knows, cant describe it any better, its varied over the years, but never section 1.
For me it started as number three and is still the major reason I enjoy dressing. During Covid my wife was design essential and was required to go to work every day. I would dress and stay dressed afterwords. I?m self employed, work from home so I would stay dressed.
My creativity increased, I got more done and was less stressed. When zooming with clients I would wear the collared shirt, tie and jacket for the camera, pencil skirt, stockings or pantyhose and stilettos for me. With very careful camera angles, I even gave presentations.i wore makeup for a better camera image.
Can’t dress as often as I like but I have a pair of stilettos under my desk that I slip on to boost my creativity.
I guess I float between 2 and 3.
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It's not dysphoria since I've never wanted to be a woman or to even look like one (except I wouldn't mind a bit more boobage)
It's not euphoria, or at least not gender euphoria. I like the look and feel of the clothes but there's nothing that makes me want to be a woman.
The only way it could be a kink would be if my wife appreciated my preferred femme/androgynous/freestyle taste. It seems my only real fantasies come when I imagine her showing real appreciation.
I was never particularly manly. Average looking. Hard worker but not particularly ambitious in a way that a woman could be proud to be with. Nothing special. I always appreciated women in a way that women would never likely appreciate me. I find that when I wear the things I like to wear, it just gives me an internal sense of value. Other peoples opinion about my taste really doesn't seem that much worse than their opinions of me in drab. At least I don't feel invisible to myself.
I have severe ADHD and am waiting to get an austism evaluation and both likely play into my outsider nature. Being odd has been my lifelong experience.
To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. ~ Timothy Keller
I am definitely right in the middle with #2
No flexing one way or the other fir me
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
I probably began, decades ago in my youth, as a #2. These days I'm a solid #1. I would transition today if there weren't familial constraints.
The early years were definitely the third but now the second is equally important. Most of all I just like how all the feminine clothes makes me look and how they feel on me. I'm so different from when I am a guy.