YES! Grab her tell her you love her,& kiss her.If you love this woman so much don't let her go!You never forgive yourself.How many time have I heard "I don't want her just as a friend"? of course NOT! you want her for your lover girlfriend maybe wife for life?
As far as your cross dressing goes if SHE loves you for who you are then she'll like your fem side too believe me!
TIMME