Quote Originally Posted by VtVicky View Post
One of the problems some CDers have with relationships is that the CDing becomes their sole focus in life. If it is just a part of an otherwise well rounded life, a new relationship can flourish around the other areas. And the CDing can be seen as a part of you, NOT the whole you. If the other areas fit together with another person, she, even if not liking the CDing, can find enough to like to tolerate the CDing.

For example: I like skiing, golf, and CDing. My SO likes sking and golf. And, although she knows about my CDing, prefers not to be invloved with it. Really, two out of three is not bad. There are many long term relationships based on less.

My Point: The more different things someone likes about you, the less significant the disliked things become.

If you are serious about finding an SO, stop focusing on the negative and start looking around in the other areas of your life. (If there are no other areas of your life...get some!!!!) Find a connection, and if it seems to have a future, THEN tell her about the CDing. (Not on your first date.)

Let's face it. One trick ponys are B*O*R*I*N*G.


Good luck
Yep Yep... develop other parts of things in life that can help you build a foundation for a life together with this girl. walking in the countryside, listening to some type of music, taking some forms of holidays. when she have all these life with you, that she cannot have it with others, she can take the "unpleasant" stuff better as a package. its just like why and how she can tolerate "my hubby's weird family members".
if CD is the only stuff you do, i think it will be challenging to find someone accepting.
ha.. i gotten a lot of stick from her about my family members (parents, siblings) than about my CDing! She is most lovely to me when i treat children very well, and make children happy.