CDing keeps me faithful...not the other way around

[docrobbysherry]

Danam's original post says: .

It's very sad that your wife doesn't have the same opportunity to know you intimately. Believe me, there will be something missing from her life with you that she can't put her finger on. A big part of you is being withheld from her and some part of her will feel that loss. She could spend her whole married life being denied a fundamental part of who you are. I think that's sad.

Again, I'm NOT defending Danam. But, Sarah, how do u know that Danam's wife ISN'T WITHHOLDING some of her feelings, etc., from him? Possibly contributing to his need to CD?

I agree with Satrana. On the surface, I don't feel that what Danam is doing is proper, but I'm withholding my judgement of him and his situation!

Because unless u know him and his SO intimately, how u can ANYONE correctly judge what is RITE for the two of them?

Having been thru the marriage, "tunnel of chaos", I KNOW how difficult it is to maintain a relationship, and LIVE with someone your whole life!
And I STILL maintain, if they have an arrangement that works for them, it's OK! Whether any of us think it's rite OR NOT!