Some feel that if they can't pass then transitioning would be too difficult and why make their life more difficult than it already is? To me, the desire, no..the need to transition was far stronger than whether or not I passed. Don't look at my avatar and say .. well it's easy for you to say becasue you pass... In the beginning I didn't pass,not even close. Even when I began to live 24/7 as a woman... i didn't pass, far from it. My need to live my life over rode my fears..loss of family and friends, of being laughed at and ridiculed,physical harm and even death. What kind of life could I have if it wasn't my life? If I didn't have my life I had nothing and if I had nothing,I had nothing to lose.. So I am out there, screwing up, taking my lumps making some headway, and it dawns on me.... passing or not passng in no longer an option. My world can't stop because I pass or don't pass. I can't stay locked inside because I don't think I pass I can't call off of work because I don't think I pass. If I really want to be me I have to just suck it up and get out there up close and personal and be me. Once i got to that point of being "me" I could begin work on how I wanted to look as "me"
It wasn't easy,there were no shotcuts,no magic,just desire and need. Iam not braver or smarter or luckier than anyone else. ... How bad do you want it. need it? Do you settle? is it a pipe dream?
And please... I know that there are those who do want it, but family and job and such make it not an option. Feel free to jump right in, but I am mainly addressing those who are in the position, but can't seem to make the jump.
Let me add a little disclaimer here: There is no set answer,no right or wrong, and whether you agree or disagee with someone else is of no consequence. Just looking for your personal view.
