My wife is a lot like that, certainly not to those extremes, but she is a femme girl, almost never wears pants to work, almost always wears heels of some sort, always has her hair "done" in some fashion, she wears hats any time she thinks she can get away with it. She stands up for, and enjoys being clean, looking well put together, and ladylike. We are not fuddie duddies, she is 37. This is unusual for our age group most of whom seem to have fallen prey to the "casual friday / sloppy all the time" look and mindset. She takes grief for looking well put together, for not conforming to the status que, and is often asked what she is "dressed up" for.
Here is the rub:
She isn't trying to pass.
If I were to dress as she does, I would get grief too - but it would be completely different grief.
Wonderful, wonderful post! I great point and one I am sure we all could easily feel guilty about if we let it get to us.
Meghan
"No matter how far you've gone down a wrong road, turn back."
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.