Quote Originally Posted by pernille d View Post
i am not one that needs to be a woman 24/7 and things vary from just underwear to full dressing depending on my moods. i am happy with that and who i am , but it makes me very uptight keeping a secret,and the constant pressure should i or should i not tell her, My SO knows something is not right and wants me to be relaxed but i know the only way to help me is to tell her. i understand both sides of the story and lots of times think this is unfair as i see this as my problem and as soon as i tell her its not so much my problem any more, but becomes a problem for her . does it not just move the problem from one partner to the other !!!!

i am confused and really dont know what to do , the problem is i cant be selfish and think about my needs, i think about the affects on others as well so what ever i do i can only see a winner and looser but i jst cant except that ,
sweeitie you come across as a very caring partner and I have no doubt your wife thinks the same way, only you can judge whether you think your wife will accept this side of you or not ........... but already she knows something is very wrong, heck she may be thinking that you have a mistress ?

yes sometimes we as GG's feel we are dragged into the closet with you and sometimes that feeling is justified by the behavior of some CDERs, yes sometimes some of us GG's wish we didn't have the knowledge you give us ....... me I have always been "gimmee the truth and let me decide what I do with the knowledge", she may take it well or she may not but if you do decide to tell her, let her know about this site and the fact we have a GG only section where she can come talk to us GG's who are feeling how she is feeling or have felt how she is feeling, and that neither you nor her are alone in this, sometimes that knowledge helps a lot

Sheila