Quote Originally Posted by Rebecca W. View Post
I have had pedicures done by a nice woman and one comment that she has made to me, is that she hopes that I do do not crossdress. I was lying to her when I said that I do not. I really wanted to say, yes. I was afraid to say otherwise due to her strong negative feelings towards a CD.
It absolutely boggles my mind that so few people think before speaking. How on earth can you answer a question like that? I probably would have asked her something like "If I were a cross dresser, it would be pretty awkward right about now wouldn't it?" And then I would never go back to her for her services again. Rude employee = lost customer.

Of course, that is what I would likely do - what I would hope I would do is different... I would hope I would patiently, and calmly have a conversation with her about her bias and do some education. If I could just live up to the expectations "Ideal Me" has for me...

Quote Originally Posted by Katesback View Post
Seriously thoughts like this go back to the concept of the dreaded "P" word.

I guess I just shake my head. There are only so many ways to tell people to be themselves. I guess some will just slip through the cracks and never REALLY see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Has it ever occurred to you that perhaps for some people doing "the dreaded "P" word" IS being themselves? If not passing is who you are, and how you are comfortable - then that is exactly the right thing for you. But not everyone here is you. Some of us are not comfortable being a dude in a dress. Some of us feel most comfortable passing. For some of us, who we are is women - and being understood that way is legitimate.

Shake your head all you want, there is no excuse for this chip on your shoulder.