I think it takes another crossdresser, or a GG who's familiar with crossdressers (perhaps has a relative or friend or associate who is one) to refer to a crossdresser as "she" or "her". I find that if I am discussing with my daughter about something I read on here that one of us said, I always refer to that member in feminine terms. I have never met any of us out there that I knew was a CDer, but I would never disrespect her by referring to her as "he". Perhaps it's just something built in to all of us.
