Who said that you shouldn't date and have sex with men?
If you're in a venue (OK, I'll say it ... a tranny club) where there are men looking for Tgirls you'll be fine. The dangers lie in straight clubs. You just don't know what the guy who thinks you're sexy will do once he finds out you're not a GG, if he's homophobic. There's no way to control someone else's reaction ahead of time. So how can you "be careful" in a situation like that?
In the video link that I posted, Gwen Araujo was at a party. She was killed when some of the guys found out she was TS.
I agree.