Other than the stresses of daily family life there are no marital issues, and it's certainly not menopause. "Doormat" may have hit it on the head. She's been placating me until now and the truth about how she feels is coming out.
As for the Vulnerable with no trace of masculinity to hide behind. comment, I feel it's hard to take a stand and "Be the man" when I'm being attacked for being feminine. I haven't a leg to stand on in my defense as I concealed this truth from the start. I'm an a$$ and I have to take my lumps.
