Quote Originally Posted by Rebecca11 View Post
My wife does not know. ... I just want to come out to someone close. I want someone that knows me to look at me in both boy mode and understand my girl mode too. ...
Ok, so the obvious choice is telling your SO and NOT the friend. But you must realize that your SO probably thinks you are having an affair. I am incredulous that you would prefer to tell a friend such an intimate secret ahead of your SO, the one who has the right to know. You have to reset your priorities.