… I told my wife. It was a stumbling, halting and somewhat sideways conversation, but I finally got the point across.

It's kind of funny, you build up all these scenarios about how telling your spouse will be super difficult, that she will not accept me or that it's the end of life as you know it. I certainly went into this conversation feeling all that and more.

The fact is my wife helped me a bit by saying something she hoped would be outrageous. In a teasing manner she asked, "You're not going to tell me your gay, are you?" With that she broke the ice and it was easier.

I didn't just blurt out, "hey, I'm a crossdresser". I told her I like to dress up. Which of course begged additional questions, such as, "dress up as what?"

After some additional stumbling, she got the idea that I like to wear women's clothing.

Of course at first she thought it a bit strange and wondered why I felt this was something I needed to do. But she was very supportive, listened, and asked questions. It would be nice if I could explain it to myself. But I've decided to live one day at a time and accept myself unconditionally.

When I told her about how afraid I was to talk to her about this. That I hadn't been sleeping well, worrying and thinking about all the possible negative repercussions, she asked why I hadn't told her sooner!

Thankfully, I had read some of the posts on here about talking to your significant other, which helped me tremendously. The biggest area for me is that I have a tendency to overwhelm with too much information. In this case I kept my enthusiasm in check. Only telling her enough to allow her to ease into the idea.

This was probably the best advice ever. Thank you!

I offered her some advice where she could learn more about crossdressing, recommending the Tri-Ess site and this forum. I told her how helpful it was for me to read this forum and how much it helped me to understand more about me. She had no interest in digging any deeper, so I let it go.

This was all about her and ensuring that she was comfortable. So it goes at her pace.

Honestly, I thought that once I told my wife, that would be the last time we talked about it. She only asked for two boundaries, that I not tell our child, not to let her "catch" me dressed up and she had no interest in seeing me dressed. I immediately agreed.

I offered that we would only talk about if and when she is ready. Allowing her to guide what and how much we talk about crossdressing.

This conversation took place yesterday. This morning we went for a walk. Again I thought that we wouldn't talk about crossdressing, but was pleasantly surprised. She asked me to share the site addresses, so she could read and learn more about it, then proceeded to ask lots of questions. Some very practical and some quite personal.

The more interesting part was later in the walk she was offering suggestions for using make-up and tips for grooming.

Please do not misunderstand, she does not understand and still thinks it's kind of strange, but she is very accepting of me. She is willing to stand by me as I explore and experiment with my feminine side. We are still working out the details and will continue to do so.

This is far more than I ever could have hoped for.

My wife is an amazing lady. I am very lucky to have her in my life.