Hi Jane,
A quick question . . . Is your wife against you going out in public? You mention that she is against you doing this a majority of the time. However, you do not state she is against public outings. My wife is supportive of Isha and her going out in public although she won't go out with me as she is afraid of seeing me get hurt (emotionally that is) by rude comments. I normally only get out one or twice in a month but do spend more time semi-dressed at home.
If your wife is against you going out in public, it might a good idea to discuss the subject with her. Why is she reticent (i.e., people knowing, you getting hurt)? If she is not against you going out in public then you could work to agree to limitations such as only with a support group or once or twice a month. I guess I would need a bit more information to truly provide some advice.
Hugs
Isha