Cause or Effect???

[Donnagirl]

Hi all,

Recently had a long and interesting conversation with the wife. She varies wildly between acceptance (and fun) and abhorrence / disgust. She is unaccepting of my assurance that I am not transsexual, do not want anything 'chopped off' and am happy and content to occasionally cross dress. There have been a few recent television shows about military transsexuals and their struggles for acceptance and this has affected her judgement. She is convinced I am on a slippery slope to surgery, and for her, divorce and separation, unhappiness and loneliness...

As part of her argument, she brought up the fact that I have less hair in my body than she does. I have none on my legs below mid thigh, none on my chest and wispy hair on my arms. I shave my head due little or no growth and have no hope growing a moustache or beard.

I do not have alopecia, I do not have any medical causes, no ailments offer explanation, it is, according to the doctor, purely genetic. Now I do have about an A cup man boob, the leftover of being extremely fit and muscular, (I was a clearance diver, the Aussie equivalent to a navy seal and swam many, many, many hundreds of miles both under and on the ocean...) but have done nothing to accentuate. I 'loosely' fit a 38a bra and I am more that happy with that. I have no forms and cannot see me buying any.

I had no problems in then bedroom department, fathering three boys without much trial. My wife, however, seems to think that I am genetically predisposed to gender confusion by mere physical evidence alone. I am at a loss for a counter argument.

I am not transsexual, I have not ever had the feeling or belief that I am a woman trapped in a mans body. I do however have difficulty in articulating exactly what I dress for. Thrill, comfort, normalcy, erotica, relaxation, relief, satisfaction, ... none are right, none are wrong... I do not have the gender dysphoria I read about in others but I suffer the 'pink fog'.

I don't 'pass', and doubt I will ever 'pass' and, other than underdressing, do not venture out in anything but drab.

Can anyone offer any assistance??? Is there validity to this claim? Does anyone else have a similar lack of body hair? Can there be a genetic link? Is an innate inability to grow hair an indicator. I think not but can not postulate a credible argument against.

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Thanks...