Your boyfriend is so lucky!!!
I think very very few crossdressers have had a girlfriend so understanding as you!
Things depend on your overall relationship and communication however. I think if your mental relationship is good overall, things will definitely become better regarding the cd issue and behavior in general. After all it's the society's rules that make it all seem so complicating and frustrating.
People are what they are and feel what they feel. Only love and positive mental attitude can help make everything easier.