Quote Originally Posted by devida View Post
. . . I am often surprised why there is so much interest in this forum on why we are the way we are. Are gay males, lesbians, bisexuals so interested in why they are the way they are or is it just the T in the LGBT that is so curious? And why? Are we reluctant to accept ourselves as who we are? Do we think if we could find out we could somehow fix ourselves and just be ordinary heteronormative cisgendered folk?
Funny you should mention this Devida. When I first started seeing a "gender identity therapist" this was central in my discussion. I wanted her to explain to me "why" . . . why should I want to dress like a girl when I am guy. She would never give me a direct reason (a few floating hypotheses) because there is no agreement in the literature or for that matter a true body of literature on what makes people crossdress. She did ask me why I was so fixated on finding out why and was it because I was hoping that by identifying the root cause I could somehow fix it. It was at that moment that I realized my inability to move forward and accept me (including Isha) was due to my incessant drive to find out why. So I gave up trying to explain it and accepted it. At that point I found true peace and was able to continue in my journey.

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Isha