Ask a GG - Part Two

[ReineD]

My question is whether a heterosexual (or bisexual) transgender person (MTF) (to distinguish from a CD person) must be perceived as a necessarily a criticism of his partner?

No. Are there any comments from GGs in this Q&A session that would lead you to understand that just the mere fact of a MtF CD, TG, or TS presenting as a woman would be perceived as a personal criticism by their wife? My SO has identified in turns both as TG & CD in the past. I am not offended by his presentation, other than at times I wondered if he was wanting to attract men. I myself dress sexily on occasion, specifically to be attractive to the opposite sex. (I don't dress that way just to hang out with other GGs. ) There is nothing wrong with dressing sexily, if the GG (or CD, TG or TS) is single or wanting to be pleasing to their SO.

But, female-attracted CDs/TGs/TSs must understand that this doesn't work both ways. Although a GG's husband will appreciate it if his wife dresses to please his male instinct, there is nothing about short skirts, décolletage, form-fitting sweater dresses, high heels, etc, that would sexually stimulate a hetero GG. By definition, a hetero GG is not stimulated by other women, whether they are sexy or not. So if her CD, TG or TS husband dresses that way, it is difficult to not assume the husband is wanting to be pleasing to men.

If one doesn’t present as a vamp, sex kitten or some other stereotypical, sexualized representation of a woman... must the TG person’s presentation be viewed in the same light?

No, of course not.

Ladies - Simple Question : Do you think it is normal Human Curiosity that a young boy might think it would be fun to see how he would look and feel in one of his sisters pretty dresses, Tutus, and dance outfits ? After all his sister seems so happy dancing around in these colorful outfits. This being a boy that had NOT been taught that Girls things were never to be touched by a boy and if he did ridicule and punishment would follow ?

Nope. I think the vast majority of boys have no interest in trying on girls' clothes. Most prepubescent boys think that girls and anything girl-related have cooties.

Harder Question : If your young son or grandson showed a curiosity about girls clothes would you play along and encourage him to try something on for fun or scare the crap out of him and tell him to not even think about doing anything Girlish ?

The motive for putting on girls' clothes is initially sexual, for most boys who choose that route. I would explain to my son that he would have a happier sex life later, if he didn't engage his neurotransmitter reward system to associate sexual pleasure with wearing women's clothing. Instead, he might find out what his buddies were sexually attracted to and cultivate sexual arousal for that.

If my son were under the age of 5 when first wanting to wear girls' clothes, I would neither encourage nor interfere. I would let it play out. One of my sons wanted to wear my high heels. It turned out he just wanted to be taller than his older brother. lol