For me and personal experience.
My wife discovered my dressing long ago. We cried and talked and it was ok for a bit then she couldn't handle it.
I went back in the closet and tried to keep it there. Fast forward another 25 years and I just couldn't hide anymore. I sat her down and we talked and I told her the whole story. It was "make or break" but I just couldn't keep it from her any more. It wasn't fair to her or to me. Thankfully we were in a position where it was no longer the big deal it was years before. She began accepting and is my biggest supporter in all way. We have become so much closer as I can share All of me with her and not hold parts back.
That's me...this is your life.
