There seems to be a constant tension in our realm because even many "accepting" spouses would love for the complication to disappear and for her husband to better match her ideal of masculinity. In my situation, there's a constant and very real threat that any one purchase or presentation will step over some line that my wife doesn't want to cross. What she communicates is that she doesn't want to see who I am. So I either hide or face rejection.
What I'd love to hear is a sincere statement of "So, this is who you are! Show me more!"
Has anyone else worked out what they'd like to hear from a spouse or SO?
