When i got my first panties in 2010, I tended to prefer to wear sexier things like string bikinis and other minimal styles with lace. These days, I am much more likely to be wearing a pair of full briefs or high cut panties as i find them more comfortable and the need to feel sexy has diminished. I still opt for minimal coverage occasionally, but it's rare. Also, the styles I gravitate to are simple, classic styles rather than sexy. I have never presented or wanted to present as a woman, which is good since i have a full face of hair which I've recently been allowing to get longer. I like being a dude. But, I dislike the restrictions imposed by the typical definitions of feminine/masculine. I wear a LOT of feminine things, but don't see myself as feminine, at least not in the way i see my wife and daughter as feminine. I'm a dude with eclectic taste, or "freestyler" as John H called me. I'm good with that.
Settling in for me is to slowly set and expand my own boundaries rather than to just blindly follow the crowd. I'm retired and am pretty much dressed 24/7 at home and am slowly venturing out with subtle feminine presentations. My wife's comfort zone is the brake to just about any further developments, but I did allow myself to get out and spend the day grocery and household shopping wearing mascara in male mode. That's the first "successful" outing in makeup for me and it's a tiny step, but it felt good.
