Your post raises the related question of why some couples grow apart and divorce in the fist place. It's certainly different for everyone. I worry that while my wife may be supportive of my dressing, it could be driving a not so obvious wedge between how we see each other. As an example: we were discussing eye liner while out at dinner one evening and the conversation felt like we were girl friends commiserating on how hard it was to apply correctly. It spooked both of us. I don't want to be just friends with my wife, I want that tension and passion to exist that draws us together. It's my fear that if I dressed around her any time I wanted she'd eventually see me as just a roommate and we'd drift apart. We might split amicably and say it had nothing to do with cross dressing but I'd always wonder if did in a subconscious sort of way.