Something happened a couple days ago that I would like to share as this really took me by surprise.
As background I often dress in the evenings with shapewear but never with wig or makeup as this is kind of a line my wife and I don?t cross.
I was dressed head to toe the other day, purse and all, ready to head out to my therapy meeting, which is the only time I fully dress - unless she is away. I always just say good bye on my way out from another room so that she doesn?t see me. So I say see ya and I hear - can you come look at this? I think - seriously - you know how I?m dressed right now.I cautiously approach and see she is outside on our patio, and she thinks there is a watering issue with garden. Again she says can you come look at this? So I?m thinking ok I guess you realize what you?re getting into here. So now I?m on the patio fully dressed which I never even do by myself for obvious reasons, and we just start having this garden discussion like it?s perfectly normal! While it felt nice in a way of course but mostly my mind is racing thinking why is she doing this, and also kind of panicky about how risky this is to be seen by neighbors - which is usually a big concern of hers - and mine. After a while i said ok I have to go.
When I returned home instead of going straight upstairs to change i thought well, seeing as happened earlier, maybe it would be ok to hang out in our living room for a while. We talked about plans for the rest of the day and she said well we can go whenever you want to change. Or she offered to go by herself if I didn?t want to change for the day.
I?m not rushing to see this as any grand new super high level of acceptance or anything but it does give me a sense that maybe I?m underestimating her tolerance to my cding, at least at times.
Anyway sorry I know this is not the most exciting experience compared to others but it was kind of a shocker to me.