So sorry this happened to you.
The fear of something similar was one of the reasons I decided to come out fully to my wife. I decided that I was willing to suffer the consequences and that it would be better for me to bring everything up than to have her uncover my secret. I felt I had at least a small chance of things working out. That's another reason why I have never gone on social media and only appear in this and one other related site.

I do hope things work out for you.