My husband and I have a communication problem which could be the source of many of our problems. It's NOT that he refuses to communicate, but usually he CANNOT talk about things for more than 1/2 hour...1 hour max before he gets totally overwhelmed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I then insist on us going forward...and the results can be CATASTROPHIC!!! I know this is a typical marriage pattern: The more the man withdraws, the more the woman insists.
I find our THIRD therapist just as useless as the prior two...and I am getting more and more worn out, we both are...! A friend suggested a new one, but I currently don't have it in me to tell my story once more to a total strager.........!
HAVE YOU ANY THOUGHTS ON HOW I CAN COMMUNICATE MORE EFFECTIVELY with him without overwhelming him??? DO ANY OF YOU EXPERIENCE THE SAME helpelessness when it comes to talking??? I thought the sensitivity of his cd side would have made it easier for him to express himself and be a little more perceptive, but it does NOT seem to be so!
I am learning to respect my husbands limits BUT how will we ever resolve anything if everything is always discussed peacemeal (?) and one of us always ends feeling angry (him) or anxiety striken (me)???
Sorry for the lack of more FUN threads...maybe one of these days I will be able to show my funny and devious side..........Thanks again...Jean
