One "you" or two?

[Deanna2]

My personality may be odd, but it ain't split. Fortunately for the world there is only one me.

[Claire3]

Good question,think of myself as claire at times even when i not dressed.abit concerned as just enroled in Spanish course and wondering in all the confusion of learning ill come out of the closet with ''me llamo Claire'' to the class?

[Dita's Daughter]

So interesting. I speak two languages and I know when I'm .. sorry for the analogy here, it's the best I've got! When I'm more fluent in one language, I also think in that language. I guess I wonder if, like Sheri said, there is a more dominant tendency that brings out the third person perspective. Thanks, and I'll check out that thread Sherlyn

[BarbaraTalbot]

I am most often in male mode. Even when typing here. Not just attire, (but being 'dressed' helps), but there is a softer side that is unexplainable when 'en femme'.

When I speak in third person it is usually because my male side is unsure of something that I do while en femme.

An example is shopping. My male side HATES it. He is a tightwad. When he types, "Barbara has a shopping problem" he is both correct and in control of the rudder at that moment.

When I, Barbara, type in first person it is because I am feeling secure and open about my femme side. I can answer questions respond and it feels sincere and not contrived.

When he is uncertain about why it is he wears a dress at times, he refers to Barbara in third person.

This is a GREAT question, and answering it has been illuminating, I just realized that I am Barbara as I type this.

I think I handle feelings better as Barbara..


Edit: I just read Sher's older thread on this. I was STRIKING who chimed in that they don't.

I don't want to speak for anyone else, but Third Person seems more common with "Crossdressers" like me especially if we for the most part happily present in our birth gender most of the time.

Those that I would see (as an outsider) as truly "Transsexual" meaning for me they ARE the opposite gender to their apparent birth gender, don't seem to do this. If they are male, they are male so no matter what they wear they are him. If they are female, they are her regardless of clothes and environment. This held true for those that circumstances permit living their true gender 24/7 and those who would like to but cannot.

It is only those of us that think of ourselves as both genders or primarily one gender with a costume change that have this trait.

I now think it is a bit of a 'tell' for where we are on the ts/cd continuum.

[Lisa Golightly]

There's just boring old little Lisa I'm afraid...

[Phyliss]

Time was, I had to be "fully dressed" incl makeup to be "in character" and feel comfortable here.
Now a days, I am Phyliss 99% of the time. No matter what I wear, or what "parts" may or may not be connected or augmented. "HE" is also me, but "he" goes to work and earns a living, and that's about it.

[Satrana]

I don't actually use a feminine name except here in forums. At home my wife just calls me honey so I have no need for alternative names. I never felt comfortable with the idea of choosing another name for myself since it felt like an artificial process, kinda like choosing a name for a character in a book I am writing. I don't relate in the slightest to the name Satrana or any other name.

Since I don't think of myself as an actual woman, it never seemed particularly appropriate either. I really don't change my behavior or attitude when crossdressing, these days I am just mixing and matching clothes and the whole idea of a separate identity just seems weird to contemplate. I am just me, period.

I never thought that separating out my masculine and feminine qualities into two identities was what crossdressing was about. How can I be expressing myself by creating an alter ego? So for myself, Satrana is just a reference for others to use.

[Angela Burke]

There's just boring old little Lisa I'm afraid...

I'm the same as Lisa. No third person descriptions.
"Angela's" just "Andy" in a skirt or a dress.

[Lora Olivia]

definately 2, when i am in here especially or anytime i am dressed and out. to refer to myself as male here would just seem weird to me. maybe Barb is right and it is really about where we are on the gender spectrum, i don't know. only thing i know right now is "he" has to get dressed in icky clothes and go to work

[Sophster GG]

There's just boring old little Lisa I'm afraid...

Aw, Lis, who said you are boring?!

You are not!!:D

[Rosaliy Lynne]

definately 2, when i am in here especially or anytime i am dressed and out. to refer to myself as male here would just seem weird to me. maybe Barb is right and it is really about where we are on the gender spectrum, i don't know. only thing i know right now is "he" has to get dressed in icky clothes and go to work

"he" has to get dressed and go to work is about it. I am one person but like any coin, I have two sides. Male and Female. I love the woman I am and prefer to be her but, hey a gal has to eat and so "he" goes to work. I can't go to work where "he" works but I often wish I had a job where I could be me all the time.