Batty, the truth shall set you free. It is sad that she is doing this. It is emotional blackmail. I'm glad you are not giving her any leverage by being scared of the out come. Very brave of you to just face it and control the way it comes out. Be ready for even more desparate attempts to control because I fear she is a very hurting person who feels so out of control that she stoops to this level. I guess that the saying is true. Hurt people hurt people.

The reactions you got are a testiment to the freindship that you give. Real friends would not abandon you over something like this. The fact that your girlfriend is trying to destroy your relationships makes me think that she has very few freinds? She may be jealous or overly posessive. If you are all she has then that just isn't very healthy especially if she is trying to destroy them.

You are a very brave person for sticking things out in the name of love. No one would say you didn't do all you could to make this realationship work.
Here are some for later. Kitty