You are not at fault and should never down size or belittle yourself. You are a wonderful person and probably a better one than your wife is as you can be open and sensitive about things. Be true to yourself. She is just trying to get you to stop dressing, don't do it, she will probably leave you or kick you out, but she was going to do that anyway, she has just found a reason for it now. Don't let it get you down, I went through this same thing with my now Xwife. My Xwife used to beat me phsically. Don't put yourself through this misery get out while you can still make something of yourself. Don't worry about what others think or say, just be happy with who you are. GOD LOVES you no matter what you look like. Be the you, you are inside and find the happiness we all deserve. Don't let others run or ruin your life, live your life the way you feel comfortable. Life is too short to live by someone elses standards.
Break free and live.
I went through hell with my Xwife, for many years, no it was not all bad the first 4 years, but the 12 years after that left me going grey in hair color. When I got out of that relationship my hair changed back to the black color and the grey was gone. If she really LOVES you she would not put you through hell. The courts will not these days ruin you for crossdressing.
Exscape before she ruins you!!!
