The only guilt that I have, is that sometimes when I am dressed, I want a man. It is not always sexual. But, I sometimes would like to have a man look, and want me as a woman.
Wow, that took a lot for me to say.
The only guilt that I have, is that sometimes when I am dressed, I want a man. It is not always sexual. But, I sometimes would like to have a man look, and want me as a woman.
Wow, that took a lot for me to say.
I dunno RS, things considered "healthy" or "unhealthy" are constantly changing. You look at the news, one day things are healthy for you, the next day they are not like coffee for instance. As far as dressing, it depends on your outlook and view point. I do know it's definately unhealthy to keep our feelings locked inside, so it's a matter of individual determination I think.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
I don't feel guilty but it's not as fun as it was, my SO thinks it's weird, so there's no dressing around her ever, and thats killed it pretty much for me.Originally Posted by docrobbysherry
My twist on this, is, is it unhealthy, not to crossdress!
I'm certainly not the same person when I don't dress often, or forgo my hobby for family and work, or other commitments or reasons. I have not been able to dress for month, due to a health issue, I know i'm more snappy with my family for no good reason, and not as settled as I would be. my dressing is sort of a stress release, not that i'm stressed, about anything! However as I have been dressing for nearly 40 years now,Cding is a major part of me, both the male side and the female side, when you want to do so, but can't thats when the stress, and snappyness starts. Basically I don't want to be a girl, but I do need to be me, and sometimes than means me looking and acting like a girl!!!
Cya
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I couldn't agree more.
I don't know why - which is kind of frustrating as it makes it difficult to explain to my wife - but in principle I have found this forum confirms absolutely that this is part of my nature.
I am still struggling to like myself, though!
Work in progress!
Lesley, I agee with you and I understand completely your situation. I too have suffered for years with the guilt of being a CDer. As I have aged though, I have come to realize that I did not choose this - this is just the way I came wired. And to quote a phrase I belive in - "God doesn't make junk." So I have come to accept the feminine side. Age has also taken me to a place where I really do not care much what the general public thinks. Mostly I belive that the general public does not really care either. The problem still lies in sharing with those closest to you. My wife knows, and on a basic level understands that it is part of me and not being able to live that part takes away from happiness. And being happy is a very important part of life. But she does not like it. So here we are, I dress when appropriate, but still there is not a full disclosure of who Joanna is. It is just not easy. But I think eventually it will work out or I will get so old it will not be relavant any longer!
Joanna
the guilt for me comes from the fact i dont feel able to tell anyone i know ie friends family workmates ect - the other thing is the more clothes i have acquired the further it seems to take me from having relationships with women - like i wouldnt want to have to get rid of the stuff if i met someone tomorow - i look at a stupid thing in a way like a jane norman shoppin bag (trendy in england amongst young women!) and think thats mine ! maybe that could be unhealthy but then again if i had a wife or girlfriend she might well have one herself but its not unhealthy for her - thats what i dont get why should you feel guilty or wrong for wearing or owning anything of the opposite sex - but maybe it could be classed as unhealthy if it stops you from having relationships with people - but it doesnt have to i guess its just hard to come out about for a lot of us - but it makes me angry caus its just like the grass is always greener on the other side - i just worry now if i meet a girl now and dont tell her will i just be forcing myself not to raid her closet when shes out - that to me is unhealthy !
Your reading to much into it, and trying to analize.....I feel no guilt (well maybe when I spend a little to much on that cute new top.....). I think its a healthy thing, keeps me in check, slows me down, and makes me feel great! I love the rush of going down to the Hotel Snack bar enfemmee......Nothing like the man at the front desk saying "hello mam"
Hugs!
SandyR
Real Men can Cook in Heels...
I don't have any guilt concerning crossdressing. I feel emotionally whole while I am dressed. Very little opportunity though. I sublet a master suite within the home of my ex mother in law. As long as she does not see it she doesn't care, but she does not approve. She is less concerned with my being bi than she is the clothes...go figure.
When I am dressed I clean the house better and faster, eat healthier, have no problem not smoking cigarettes. Sounds fairly healthy to me.
I used to feel guilty about it, but the way I see it now is simple... thanks to Diana I stay skinny, I really care about my figure, so that's a plus
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I have always had a good outlook on my dressing Never felt guilt or any bad feeling about dressing Never felt it was wrong or a sin. and It has always felt natural for me to dress and healthy. The only thing I find it easier not having to lie about it now the my wife knows
Angie
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