Would you really want to be a woman?

[sybercom11]

My wife once said to me, you know if you were a woman you would have to put up with cramps and bleeding every month, having babies, being discriminated against in the workplace, other female physical problems, harassment, etc. etc. etc.

She said, you like playing a woman, but would you really want to be a woman?

I left that unanswered. But Yes I would want to be. Because being a woman is inside of me. There are things that males have to put with, so I could certainly deal with the things women have to put up with.

[fancy nancy]

If I could become a 100% woman,I would do it in a heartbeat .I always feel my true self when dressed in my dresses and tights.If I had the money to go through the changes I probaly would .

[Stormgirl]

Now that I think about it, I don't think I would really want to be a woman. I'm in one of my angry moods again. :mad:

[PortiaHoney]

Wow, what a lot of different answers. Mine, depends on the day, hour, minute. Which is why I haven't made any changes.
When I was a teen, I suffered very much pondering what if, should I, could I.
If I had been born female, I wouldn't have this dilemma - or maybe - I would just have the opposite problem - wanting to be a guy. Maybe, I am just hard to please.
I have finally come to terms with how I feel and have learned to live with it. I accept that some days I am, some days I'm not. I just don't have the commitment to change on the outside so I will just be who I am and accept that the person in the mirror is close to who I am inside, even though the reflection is not always what I want to see.

[Joni Beauman]

I think so. It has been a lifelong thing. I am reading True Selves, an account by a Psychologist in SF who treats ts patients (M-F and F-M). I am trying to sort it out for myself - some of the issues described for adolescence, teen years, and beyond for her patients seems familiar except for the sexuality. I have always been hopelessly interested in women and she describes her ts patients are being very conflicted in their sexuality. Another book I read recently in this search was Brain Gender, by a human physiologist interested in gender issues - she went into the the biology of hormones and development at different life stages and influences on gender (physical and psychological). It provides a biological basis for the continuous gradient idea for gender conceptualization. Too bad our choices tend to be join one club or the other, publicly at least. Joni

[vivianann]

Yes I want to be a woman, I know it is not all roses, but I would be the woman that I was meant to be.

[Laurelanne]

I do I started young around 11 or 12 when I was 16 I read about Christine Jorgenson and I wanted to change. For whatever reason I didnt and went on as a guy When I was divorced from my first wife at 35 I wanted to get at least breast augmentation I took hormones instead again something slowed me down (I do have little cute ones) anyway now that Im too old I really regret not doing it. YES I want to be a woman L

[Lisa Golightly]

Well I'd rather be one or the other... Rather than both to be honest. If my female mind had been installed in a female body then life would have been life rather than existence, and I'm sure if my male body had been given a male mind it would have been quite happy... Probably have gone to a lot of parties... and been quite sociable.... lol...

[Raychel]

No, No, Not for me. There is no way that I could do all that a my woman does in a day.

Get up,
Get showered and all pretty for the day.
Work all Day
Come Home
Get Changed into everyday clothes
Make Dinner,
Deal with screaming kids
Do Dishes
Do Laundry
Make Lunches, for next day
Swap Laundry
Go to bed
Read for 1/2 hour
Sleep

Repeat

I get tired just typing it out. :rolleyes:

[JennifertampaCD]

Yes.....:-)

[JoAnnDallas]

I read where a team of doctors were successful at transplating a womb and ovariers from one GG to another. I guess they could as well transplant from a GG to a CD/TG/TS. Then that person COULD experience all of the tribulations that a real GG goes thru. LOL

[Patti Girl]

No. I feel that I am "somewhere inbetween". I have some feminine traits (according to my wife), and some masculine ones. I doubt that I'd really fit in as a full woman, but I can enjoy my feminine side while still doing other things that are more masculine.

Good discussion!

Patti

[KateSpade83]

I prefer that I should have been born a pretty woman, - in a good country like the USA. No Muslim, African, or Third World country. No sex change can give me that so I just live a guys life. The advantage of being a woman - you won't get drafted like during WW 2 or Vietnam. Bad thing though is multiple child pregnancies and having a rotten husband.

[sillyfish]

I dont think i would enjoy being a real girl to be honest, there are just so many aspects that are way too different so yeah. its a nice thought though haha

[Dalece]

Yes, right now I would. As Raychel says obout laundry and stuff . I do that now the only thing is I don't have to worry about kids because there grown. When I can i do that dressed.

[stormrider]

YES! YES! YES! A hundred times YES!

[thatgirl]

YES i want to be a women

[Amy07]

I love being male, but will not give up my femme things. Dressing is a close part of me. It is not a binary choice, imho, just do what you want to do when you want to do it.

[Deidra Cowen]

I like being a silly part time Tgirl! Probably even if I did not have kids and job obligations would not go full time and become a woman. But I could see myself going enfemme a lot more! Hmmmm....5 or 6 days a week?

But I am lucky being single and living in a big liberal city where ya can run around as both a guy and a tgirl and no one really bothers me about it.

[Josephine 2006]

The answer is of course YES. Now, do I have to qualify that I would not ever want to change the relationships with the ones that I love and my children, of course, never would want to change that. BUT, YES!

[AmandaM]

I think that if I was a woman, I'd just toss on some blue jeans, a top, and brush my hair. Forget that makeup stuff. In this context, yes, I could do that. All that makeup and hair stuff is compensation and trying to hide the male self. Think about it. Would you be female if you didn't have all the female clothes, makeup, and jewelry?

[shirley1]

i dont think i could be a real women even if i wanted to - i just love the thrill and alter ego - i still have problems puttin on tights ladders left right and centre caus i havnt got the patience to put them on carefully - when i dress up i just want to get the clothes on then i can relax - but its harder or at least more time consuming than dressin in male mode - then i think how could i do this every day with 20 mins to spare before i go out to work ! women are trained to do this from an early age - and the ones that dont opt out and dress more like men - its hard work i think being a gg i understand that much now - women have the best of both worlds - men just dont have to make the effort !

[Kate Simmons]

I think that if I was a woman, I'd just toss on some blue jeans, a top, and brush my hair. Forget that makeup stuff. In this context, yes, I could do that. All that makeup and hair stuff is compensation and trying to hide the male self. Think about it. Would you be female if you didn't have all the female clothes, makeup, and jewelry?

Yep, that's pretty much my thinking as well Amanda.

[bobbi]

Absolutely, if things had been differant in my early life I would now be a woman. Sadly now it's a little too late.

[TGMarla]

Well I'd rather be one or the other... Rather than both to be honest. If my female mind had been installed in a female body then life would have been life rather than existence, and I'm sure if my male body had been given a male mind it would have been quite happy...

I concur. The gender confusion is the raw end of the deal. I'm real happy wearing dresses and the like, but I still can't live it to the fullest as a part of my life. Sometimes I feel like I got ripped off, because the whole girl thing seems so much more normal to me at times. I'd be happier as a guy if I thought as most guys do. Same if I'd have been born a girl. There wouldn't be this constant confusion going on.

That said, I couldn't at this point in my life imagine my life without crossdressing. Since I can't have it as a mainstream part of my life, like women can, then I'm forced to do it in private. But I want it there.

So sure. I'd like to have been a woman. But I'm not, so I make do. I try to exploit the benefits of being a man as best I can, and I do the woman thing on my own time. But I'm not willing to go through transition to be a woman.

Kudos to you, though, Karen! You're the best!