Would you really want to be a woman?

[Valeria]

I read where a team of doctors were successful at transplating a womb and ovariers from one GG to another. I guess they could as well transplant from a GG to a CD/TG/TS. Then that person COULD experience all of the tribulations that a real GG goes thru. LOL

The only case I know of, the whole point was just to allow her to give childbirth. They had to give her powerful immunosuppressants, and as soon as she'd delivered they removed the transplanted organs so that they could allow her immune system to return to normal.

A TG would not have the proper hip bone structue to give vaginal birth, so at best they could carry a baby and deliver (probably early) by C-section. Except that there are a bunch of reasons why this is a questionable idea (and it's not so clear it was wise even for the GG), so I wouldn't expect to see it happen anytime soon.

[deja true]

Now look what you've done!

All of you!

With every post, I changed my mind!

Now I'm more confused an conflicted than ever!

I hate you for this question, Salandra!

I love you for this question, Salandra!

deja

Thanks for making me cry, again, you bitches!

[suzannecarr]

i have to say, that i agree so much with the point about feeling ripped off!! i look at other women and sometimes think" girl you dont know how lucky you are!" able to wear their hair a hundred different ways, able to wear such comfortable clothes(at least to me!) and the style and the matching of shoes and the whole different makeup for different feelings or days or clothes or attitudes!! i just feel as though i cant express myself as a man, and i feel as though some women who maybe need a makeover but wont do it , are so lazy !!!! i just want to walk up to them and say " look girl, you could look so cute if you would just cut your hair , let me take you to the mall, and for Gods sake, pluck your eyebrows once in a while woman!!!" ok, im alright now, no im not, im still a guy, wait, "click, click" theres no place like woman hood, theres no place like womanhood" girls(GGs) always remember this, everytime that you leave that house looking awful, or halfway fixed up, remember somewhere theres a guy standing in front of a mirror, going nowhere but looking ready to go to the opera, dancing, etc.) so remember to look marvelous while you can( one day you wont be able to wear that dress!)) btw i gotta go on a diet, im getting sooooooooo fat!!<, suz

[DanaR]

"Would you really want to be a woman?"

Well, had I known what I know now about 30 years ago, I would have answered yes...

But now, being already 61 years old, I don't think it would be worth going through a lengthy, costly and often painful process...

I had that discussion with my wife and she is of the same opinion as I am...


Eugenie

I agree, the cost would be too much. I have a good relationship with my wife and daughters, but if I were to transition, I would probably loose that. My youngest daughter is a school teacher, has MS and lives nearby, I don't think that I could deal with bringing any more drama into her life.

If I were by myself, it would be different.

[deja true]

"click, click" theres no place like woman hood, theres no place like womanhood"

OMG!! Suze, I just posted that quote as a new thread topic,asking GG's to tell us how they felt about the paragraph that it's from. I feel the same as you and am really sad when I see how many present themselves to the world, especially in suburban malls.

More exposure for CD's in the real world might actually become another "women's consciousness raising" effort in the real world. Many of us may be dressing to create the ideal woman for ourselves that we haven't been able to find out there.

The mods may move it to the SO's section, I guess. But I can't wait to come back after work to check it.

respect & love

deja

[Alison Anderson]

Even the heading "Would" you really want to be a woman, begs the the question "if?"
Perhaps if Salandra had asked: "Do" you you really want yo be a woman", I would likely say No! I am happy within myself as the person I am as the product of life experienced 99.9% as male so far, even the bad times, makes me who I am now. Luckily, I have not had the kind of personal tragedies one would go back in time for to change.

After that confusing mind bend,,,(here`s another:D) I would not like a sex change and go through all the turmoil connected but I WOULD like to be a shape shifter and be able to change sex to a beautiful woman for a time and live two lives. I cant imagine losing the male side of my life completely. Nor would I like to be keeping a secret life from my loving wife and family. (if I had one) More like, I would like to be able to switch to an alternate universe where time would not lapse between the two (and a gap where I could get some sleep) ( though I think you would go eventually insane!)

As a woman, I might be a powerfull, independant, single woman, forget all the "caring for family- doing the dishes" stuff in this world of aquality, as the editor of a leading womens magazine. or Just a simple single "out on the town girl" with just enough money to indulge in all the best fasions and acsessories in my middle class town.
Or perhaps I would be a porn star! But the most famous porn star in the world!

I hope noone does mind these flights of fancy but we do excist in the world of illusion!

Too many glasses of port?

Lots of innebreated love,

Alison XXX!
A

[Kieroney]

I have thought about that question for many of years, I have pictured what I wanted to look like, and for a everyday thing as a woman no, but to just try it for a week, I could do that.

[Sapphire]

In ways crossdressers enjoy the best of both worlds. While sometimes I am tempted to think that it would have been better if I had been born female the fact of the matter is that I will never know what it is actually like to be a woman. However I do know what it is like to be a crossdresser, and now that I have finally come to terms with my crossdressing life has become that much richer.

[teresa jeen]

yes i would rather be a woman. i was raised am man and will always be a man but i can feel being a woman , if that makes sense. i observe them with awe, revere them with respect, i would want to be , yes i would! they have their physical issues as do we all. none are better or worse than the others. some dont go away some get worse with age.but, yes i would.also some go away with age as others get worse for some. yes i would.

[Kate Simmons]

For a couple of years there, when I first came "out", I was really into "IT" and felt like my feelings were becoming unbalanced in sort of a female way, so actually had to "gear down" a bit to feel comfortable. This is why I know just how powerful these feelings can be and the old saying that you want something so bad you can "taste" it applied.

There is no doubt in my mind I could have followed through and seen this transition process to conclusion, including possibly physical transition. What I eventually realized though is that I would never be satisfied with being JUST a woman. To truely be myself, I had to combine the feelings to be a whole and complete person and so what I was physically didn't really matter that much any more. So,in essence, I am a man, yes, but am also a "woman" in many ways and can perform both roles with equal ease. Sometimes you more or less have to "live it" to find out what your capabilities really are.

[Lidia_tv]

Well, Salandra, some of us do the chores (the shopping, groceries, washing, ironing) anyway - particularly if we live alone. So, being a woman on top of it would not change all that much for me in that department. It's all about accepting things, like accepting the fact that we crossdress.

Here's a thought for all:
- for a while I lived with a GG. There are many reasons that caused us to split, but to say some: she was a control freak, and very conservative person who could never come to terms with crossdressing - she ridiculed CDs whenever the topic came up or she saw them on TV. That's why I had to be very careful, and eventually, that was one of the main reasons why we split. But: she admitted that when it came to ironing and generally care for clothes, particularly the most delicate ones - I knew more, and was better than she was. So, after a day full of chores, sometimes the fulfillment of seeing them well done makes me feel more of a woman then the dress I'm wearing at that moment.

[Kate Simmons]

Hi Lidia, Many people who have the need to "control" everything basically have a lack of self assurance and get upset when things don't go according to plan or don't fit into their own particular "world". I prefer spontaneity myself. Not only does it "spice" things up a bit but sometimes inspires my creativity. This is why I prefer being a "person" rather than necessarily being either a "man" or a "woman" and it doesn't lock me in to what assuming either of those roles implies.

[Lidia_tv]

I agree with you on that one, a PERSON first, everything else afterwards.

[Anna the Dub]

Think about it. Would you be female if you didn't have all the female clothes, makeup, and jewelry?

In a heartbeat. To me the clothes are not really important. Oh I like nice things, who doesn't? But only in the right context, like a big night out. But they are just clothes, a useful tool to portray to the world how I feel inside. When I transition, I will quite happily just throw on a pair of jeans and a top for everyday, with little or no make up. That stuff is not important.

[Mary Jane1]

I've thought abought this a lot and I know I'd like to be a woman. Not because of clothes, shopping etc. But for the sheer joy of expressing my femininity and knowing and developing the inner woman and all that entails. The emotional, spiritual, compassionate and loving woman is amazing in my opinion. I envy her and would love to be her.

Yes I want to be a woman, I know it is not all roses, but I would be the woman that I was meant to be.

I agree Vivianann. I agree, I agree, I agree.

[MJ]

=Bre Rue;1150411]I have had this discussion with my wife recently...
I have thought long and hard and know in my heart that if we had never met I most likely would have transitioned long ago.

Now I would have loved to be born a girl, actually when I was little I always wished for it!
So now here I sit, A place between hurting the one person I love the most and my own happiness. Overall I am a pretty upbeat and happy person, even with hiding my secret. I could realistically keep hiding it the rest of my life and be OK. Although I would never be whole.

So, here we are.....At the crossroads of life.

Good question Sal

if the one i loved could except my cding i would be in bre's heels right now but sad to say she did not. and i chose the path to transition .
funny how one does not know how good you got it until it's gone

[QUOTE=Teresa Amina;1151238]Hardly a problem for just women :2c:[/QUOTE]

=dianarg;1151256]yeah, but it gets much tougher if your a TS.

preach it sister

[KandisTX]

In all honesty, I can say NO, I would not want to be a woman. I would lose too much in my life that matters to me. So, for me, I'll stick with being a man that just happens to be a crossdresser.

Kandis

[RobertaFermina]

Salandra,

It is a choice.

I have not fully confronted and broken through all my barriers in becoming the *man* I want to be, and savoring the fruits of manhood.

When I'm satisfied that I have "been there, done that, ticked it off!", then I could take a turn at being a woman.

Perhaps in the next lifetime?

It is not about preference, it is about expanding my consciousness.

Why leave manhood half-done, to move on to womanhood when I have no overwhelmingly compelling reason to do so?

As for TS's, I concede that overwhelmingly compelling reasons do drive them to take that turn, and make it work.

Roberta

[britney]

i would love to. there are so many things i would do. I will say, i would want to retain my male memories. As a female who knows the ins and outs of the male mind, you could take over the world

[Nicki B]

There is no doubt in my mind I could have followed through and seen this transition process to conclusion, including possibly physical transition.

I answered this question, for myself, very soon after I came out... I looked at all things my female friends suffered (periods, PMT, glass ceilings, etc) and asked myself why I would want that? :hmmm:

I've found my place sitting happily on the fence, with, for me, the best of both worlds...

i would love to. there are so many things i would do. I will say, i would want to retain my male memories. As a female who knows the ins and outs of the male mind, you could take over the world

A friend of mine, who has transitioned, works as a life coach, teaching women how to succeed in a male business world?

Use the advantages you have been given (just remember to think of them as advantages)?

[Jena11]

Well, the answer for me has always been yes, but I was afraid to admit it. I wish I knew 30 years ago what I know now, my life would have been different. I was even scared a few years back when I started the laser hair removal but I then knew that I had to move forward, Things keep chaning and some things are much easier for me now. I am going to be starting hormones this week and am looking forward to my journey, I am sure that things will not always be easy or could be very difficult but if I made it this far in life being unhappy with living the lie of life living like a guy. I can make it through this journey to find some happiness for myself. It took so long to say that I was a cross dresser and now I have learned that I really only feel that I am cross dressing when I wear mens clothes.

[annekathleen]

I think there is a fine line between reality and fantasy.
In reality, we are all males.
In fantasy, we might want to be a female.
We are all in different stages of crossdressing.
I dont think I will ever really want to be a female.
Maybe, some of you do, and I respect that.
I think problems arise when we can no longer accept ourselves as male,
and try to live as women, and some of us make some very pretty women.
But a little bit of reality here, we are gentically male.

[Clarissa]

Even though im a full time crossdresser, i still love my **** and how its always awake before I wake up. lol.

[Echo Logical]

I am glad in a great many ways that I was not born female. There are Physiological reasons, cultural reasons, and personal psychological reasons as well.

Physiological reasons: Female Puberty, PMS, Menopause. I have an older sister who was so afflicted at puberty that she would at times cry herself to sleep at night because of the pain in her newly forming breasts. I have known a number of women who, for extended periods of time in their lives had periods so disruptive that they literally could not function. My sister for one, would at times be sick in bed for a solid week from the cramping and nausea. My mother during menopause had mood swings so violent that she sometimes thought she had gone completely insane, and sometimes we did too.

My wife is going through menopause right now, and she is having a rough time with it. There are changes in hormone levels, the changes in her skin, her hair, her emotions, her sex-drive, and more. It really gets to her, has her questioning her femininity. She is sometimes ill, can't sleep, night sweats and "Power Surges". As strong as I am, I am not certain that I could weather that storm personally, it is hard enough having to watch a person you love go through it. I have empathy and compassion, but know that I will never truly understand what it is like to go through it.

These reasons alone are enough to make me glad I was born a man.

There are cultural reasons: As much as we might try to pretend, this culture is far from experiencing anything like true equality of gender. Sure women can work too,but as a man I know that I will likely make more than equally qualified women working the same job.

There is also a disparity of authority, I have often been given more deference and respect over equally and even greater qualified women, merely because I am a man. While in a study group for a philosophy class I was amazed at how often people would ignore the answers given by a friend of mine merely because she was a woman. As an experiment I began repeating nearly word for word what she had said often moments before, and people would think I was brilliant for how well I understood the material. My friend was intelligent, articulate, and a deep thinker yet people seemed to believe that she couldn't possibly know what she was talking about because she was a girl. The truly amazing thing is that it was both men and women who treated her this way.

You will notice too that if a man is assertive then he is confident, secure, strong, and a good leader. If a woman is assertive then she is often considered a bitch. How is that equal?

Lets look at other unequal things; It is much easier to be an ugly man than to be an ugly woman, far more so than men, a woman is judged on everything based on clues of her appearance. Men who like sex are seen as studs, women who like sex are seen as ****s. The list goes on and on, and at every turn stacks the deck against women. I can go to war, fight terrorists, face IED's and rockets, yet I wonder if I have the fortitude to face the daily injustices that my wife, sister, female friends face over and over again all their lives.

While todays society sets quite a few ridiculous expectations on both genders, I think I would choose those faced by men over those faced by women.

Even if I were to go and get total SRS tomorrow, it would still be primarily a physical change, it would not suddenly mean that I felt to my core what it is truly like to be a woman from birth, to have dealt with all of the injustices, expectations, and physical issues that being born and growing up female bring.

I also have very personal reasons: I just plain like being male, and I like being the particular person that I am. Yes I have wondered what it would like to have been born a woman and have come to believe that I am very glad I was born a male. I may never look as good as a VS Model in thigh high patent leather boots, but wearing them will still make me feel good, and all without ever having felt bloated from a period. I know that there are many wonderful things about being female, it isnt all negative. I also know that there are some negative things about being a guy, it isn't all boxer shorts and beer. I am simply glad that I am male, I am also glad to have found that there are a whole bunch of other guys who like dressing in female things, as individual as we may want to be, it sucks being alone.

[Carly D.]

I think all crossdressers would like to try out being the opposite sex for a while.. and I have fantisized about what that would be like, but in reality I like to be a guy and crossdress..