Where am I going wrong ?

[Nicole Erin]

Suzy, first of all, don't despair about this.
You know the only thing that was really off was maybe the blonde wig. But that is easily fixable.
I think you look more nautural with curly brown hair.

Gyod you look better than I do, which may not be saying much but anyways...

The things that may have gotten you read are probably all fixable.
We have all seen CD/TS who will just look like men no matter what but you are not one of them.
Did it ever cross your mind that maybe that guy recognised you from a time he may have seen you in drab? Or, just maybe, he thought you were HAWT and was checking out the fine looking lady quite close. I imagine even though he "read" you, he STILL thinks "what a fine looking woman!"

I think you are wanting to go run and hide a little too quickly. I know you are hurt cause god yes it does hurt to get read. But don't get so discouraged.

[Suzy Harrison]

I now think I know where I went wrong the other day and it also explains how I seem to pass face to face in shops, but not at a distance in the street.

It's the walk.......

Today I set up my video camera and took many videos of my walk. I also remembered back to that day when I was walking past the coffee shop with all those guys sitting outside. I had felt a little nervous at the time and exaggerated the swaying hips just a little. Well on camera that exaggeration comes across quite badly - and it's this I believe that got me read.

It's funny because looking at the videos, I find I walk much better in heels than flat shoes.....

[tamarav]

[SIZE="2"]Since we have to co-exist with all the other people out there, we sometimes feel uncomfortable because we read into the situation our own discomfort.

Hold your head up and star in your own show. I have people come into my salon daily, half never figure me out the other half start the immediate big ass smile that says, "you are a guy in a dress". I smile back because they are in my domain, not theirs. Pick your own domain, keep it as safe as possible and have fun.

The fool smiling might have been a deeply closeted CD who was saying to himself, damn, gotta get home and dress.

Your sis, through thick and thin,

Tami[/SIZE]

[Nicki B]

It's funny because looking at the videos, I find I walk much better in heels than flat shoes.....

Heels do that.. Watch how genetic women in slacks and flats walk?

[Lissa]

Firstly i have to say that I have never gone out dressed fully except for under things and what not so i give you all alot of credit who do. I hope to someday soon go out but i know i will not pass so I need to find a suport group or place where it will be excepted. If any of you can help with that i would apreciate it. Anyway here is my point as long as it doesnt efect your job or family I woulnt worry about it much. My reason for not dressing all the time is my kids, and the fact that I am self employed in construction and it would destroy my business. Sometimes i want to just get a job where noone knows me and go somewhere were I can be me all the time male or fem but it is imposable we need my income. So my point is be glad that you can do as much as you do sone of us cant and we want to. someday i hope to find a safe place to dress and express my fem side. lissa darn cant get spell check to work!