Wow lots of feed back Thanks everyone.
I agree that a healthy relationship should be open and honest. However I lost my last wife because of coming out, then as some of us do I kept thinking something was wrong with me and would stop for awhile then I got married again but the desire has come back in force, I rent a locker at a local CD studio and dress whenever I can. I really enjoy reading what others have done and the results they had. I know every woman is different and reactions will vary. But every piece of insight is helpful, thanks, Julie