Not a Good Night Out

[RobertaFermina]

I am SO GLAD that you are OK!

Roberta

[Katelyn]

I'm sorry that you had a bad experience. Hopefully there won't be one like that for you again. It's always a good idea to go out with a friend and never alone. Hopefully, you won't let this experience keep you from having fun.

[Carly D.]

In the first part of your post where you said the room wasn't very well both mentally and physically I think that should have been your clue to just turn and leave.. if I would feel that way I would have left.. you say that was your sixth time going out and while I've never been out I can only imagine.. while I was reading the post all I could think was what I would do, and being a chicken of sorts, I would have left at the first sign of being uncomfortable.. as far as when you got back to your home I think as well there that I would have driven by and waited till the party was broken up by either the law or attrition.. they can't fight forever..

[cd_britney_426]

I have not been out dressed since then but am planning on doing it again tomorrow (the 4th) or Saturday or possibly both. I'm not going to let one bad experience ruin what I have come to enjoy (CDing). However, this time I will need to have my guard up as well because it is the 4th of July weekend and of course the amount of drunks and crazies will be even more. I haven't really planned it out yet but perhaps there is a better bar to go to or I might go somewhere with a TG friend or something. As to my apartment complex, the place has been unusually quiet and normal following the incident. Not a soul in the parking lot at night, no police, and no trouble so I'm assuming that management and the law took care of the problem. The intention of spending time shaving, getting dressed up, and putting on makeup which takes quite a while is to go out, feel good, and have an enjoyable time. I don't think I'm a beauty queen but I have gotten some compliments. Obviously I have to have a level of normalcy to have a good time. I mean I can tune out or ignore some idiots or troublemakers but not if the entire bar is full of them and then more show up to my house. Hopefully no problems this time. Thanks for everyone's support. Britney

[Claire3]

Wow,thats some bad experience.(understatement).I think a move to an area and change of bar where carrying a pistol isn't needed as well as dealing with these situations would be a good move.Or stay in.

[Sheena Pink]

HI Brittney, I know of the bar you were talking about. Bre visited it once when she first went out and was turned off by it. Too many working girls, no dance floor.
We usually go out to LA to have fun, they have a great TG bar there on Saturdays called Club Shine.
If we go out here in PHX, we'll go to a goth club, we've been to Tranzylvania, they were very accepting, and I do believe Bre was the only gurl we saw that night. It's on Friday nights at the Palazzo downtown. (I believe we are going out tonight in fact.) If you ever want to meet up let us know, if we're home, we're always up to going out! :D
About the crazies, I think you'd find them in any metro area, though there are some areas that have a higher concentration.

[pinkeverything]

I have a different spin on what is happening. Certainly you could move. Obviously, you can avoid going to a bar. However, the real problem seems to be drugs. Methamphetamine and Crack Cocaine in particular.

I am not from Pheonix, but I have done research on the topic and it is widespread and has the same results everywhere. The gay lifestyle and gay bars are notorious for having high rates of addiction. This is not news to you if you are in your 20's.

The problems my generation had (I'm 37) were entirely different, but notsomuch that we didn't witness the arrival of the drugs. Certainly these drugs were around prior to my adulthood, but it was very limited. To even hear the word Cocaine was almost foreign. Nobody I knew had even seen it. It wasn't until I was in my 20's that I say it myself. Methamphetamine wasn't even in our imaginations.

Now we know better, but the younger generations are exposed to it all at such young ages that it is almost comfortable for them to experiment at very young ages. Certainly we experimented as well, but not with anything like Crack or Meth and anything else was outrageously expensive. Even a 1/4 of weed cost 120 bucks back then, now it's almost free. These days with Crack and Meth, the first hit IS FREE because it's the first one that gets you.

That's really it in a nutshell in my mind. What we had was a bunch of beautiful personalities that would have been pleasant and kind for the most part, enjoying the evening, perhaps had a bit too much to drink and got beligerent. What we have now is are hordes of people hooked on drugs that make them super aggressive and super DESPERATE. They feel no real pleasure, just pain. It's a real tragedy.

[Marvina Martian]

Hey gurl,

Sounds like you are living on the west side.....I know that most of the crazies/gangs/ whatever, seem to live on the west side of PHX.....!

We typically hang out on the east side/Scottsdale/Chandler/Mesa when going out so as to minimize the drama that we have to encounter.

So as far as going out, like my wife Sheena said, Tranzylvania is a great place to go. http://www.tranzylvania.net/main.htm
We CDers are very welcome here and there are a ton of people there just dancing and having a good time. No Drama!

In fact we were contemplating on going out this very night and since there could be a chance that some other gurls would like to come we will definitely be there! We love meeting new people!
Our plan is to meet there at 10, so anyone who would like to join us is more than welcome. Just wear black and you will fit right in!

If anyone is interested in coming just PM either of us and we'll make arrangements to meet up....


XO Bre