I agree that comunication is the key. Sit down with her and try and find out what the real problem is and if it is not resolveable tell her that outing you would do more harm to your children than hurt you. If she is honest with you and you with her you may be able to work it out where you are both winners. If it is the CDing you might have her read some of the treads and she may come away with a better point of view.
