Does your SO like anything about your femme side?

[Tasha McIntyre]

My wife ain't exactly ecstatic about the feminine side of my wardrobe, but she openly appreciates my easy going nature, a factor she attributes to my femme crossdressing side. So unlike a lot of the rock ape knuckle dragging neanderthals out there!

[Ze xx]

Since coming clean, my SO is a lot more relaxed and more the man that I met than the frustrated person hiding a secret. Now that he is relaxed and happy, that's the best for me

Other bonuses include my shoe pool being doubled :D

[ReineD]

It is hard to attribute some qualities strictly to her feminine side as I feel they are present all the time: her sweet nature, her sensitivity, her understanding of me as a woman. And the cuddling! I love all the cuddling. But, we do most of that in guy mode.

She positively glows when she is dressed! She has gorgeous long, blonde, curly hair.

Some things that are strictly her: I enjoy her fashion sense. I value her opinion about what works with what. It is fun spending time in her closet putting outfits together. Just like spending time with a girlfriend. It is much more fun to go shopping with her than with him. Oh, and we went to see a chick flick together once, at her suggestion! And we're talking about doing a power lunch (wearing suits) together. If I forget something, I can always borrow one of hers. She knows how to undo jewelry clasps. I do not feel embarrassed about asking her to paint my nails. And I love her taste in the gifts she chooses for me. I cannot imagine ever wanting to return one. I'm sure there is more that I can't think of right now.

I feel a degree of complicity or a unique bond when we are together in public dressed (once we get past the stress) that I have not felt with anyone before.

What a nice topic for a thread. Thank you!

[Ze xx]

I've been having a bit more of a think about this. He's actually bringing out my feminine side more. I know this is daft but when he first showed me his stash I couldn't believe that he had some nicer underwear than I have. So I just had to go an get some more lacy stuff :D I tried on one of his skirts to show him why I don't wear that particular style, I have large calves and this skirt is a knee length flared skirt and I always said that style would look awful on me. Well, he proved me wrong as it actually looked really nice. Shame it was too small for me!

[tamarav]

[SIZE=4]Since I told my wife well before our marriage 25 years ago she simply looks at Tami as an extension of the male she married. She also has a live in hair stylist, maid, makeup artist (who supplies all her MAC cosmetics) cook and girl friend.[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]Her only down side is that she is larger than me now and and wishes she could get into some of my clothes...[/SIZE]

[tommi]

Laundry wench, cook and stylist she always takes me shopping to give her advice .
Then when we get home she will be upset with the way I was touching all the different clothes.
Sorry but part of what drives my dressing is the feel of the fabrics.

[Angie G]

She like that I will not rush her when shopping. I do some girly chores. And to talk about dressing We did this just the other day at my Company Clam bake.
Angie

[Valerie]

I was taken aback when my SO first told me she actually preferred Valerie to my all male version, which she found arrogant, aggressive, and impatient. There is no doubt that we are much closer now and I greatly enjoy it when she consults with me about her outfits and accessories. Life is much more fun!

Valerie

[Sandra]

I was taken aback when my SO first told me she actually preferred Valerie to my all male version, which she found arrogant, aggressive, and impatient.
Valerie

I can relate to this, Nigella's male said was similar now she's more gentle and much more easy going.

[PhillyGuy2Girl]

My wife loves that I can express my feminine side,but she loves me more as the man I am. I'm happy to be just a CDer and can have the best of both worlds.I guess you can say I'm having my cake and eating it too.

Felicity

[Ze xx]

My wife loves that I can express my feminine side,but she loves me more as the man I am.

Felicity

I think that sums me up too x

[justtheskirtfornow]

She is totally supportive of my femme side and loves to look for clothes that would look good on me. She just found me a great pair of heels and she is totally wonderful. She knows that this is part of the person she fell in love with. She is into the sexual side of the CD thing and life is good. She likes to do our makeup together and then watch a good chick flick while all dressed up. Sometimes she wants me to be a man and thats ok with me, we like it all both ways, with me as a man and dressed up in femme.
Steve...Steph

[fluffy_kingston]

I am very lucky. I've been dressing with my wife for years. We both love it and can't imagine it any other way.

[Sarah's lover]

I love Sarah's softer more caring persona. I love the amount of cuddling and unleashed passion, I always felt it was under the surface but now she is openly loving all the time.

I love that we talk so much more now. We kiss passionately now. Things Sarah couldn't do when trying not to have Sarah thoughts!!!

We love going for coffee and clothes shopping, chick flicks with Sarah and the list goes on.

I love her soft legs....

Mmmm bed time :D

[Marjory]

My first wife loved it for about 7 years. She liked everything I did that was considered "womanly" at the time (1968-1975) I also built our house and crewed formula cars and did a stint as a rocket scientist( not as smart as everyone thinks) but she turned over night. Came home and she was gone said she didn't like my XDing anymore. It was very sudden, never did figure it out. I've remained in the closet since then.

[Tina B.]

This morning my wife was not sure about the outfit she was putting to gather for the day, it was nice having a live in fashion consultant. She also likes having someone that will watch fashion oriented shows on TV with her.
She also likes borrowing Jewelry from me. But most of all she likes that I clean house, cook and do laundry, it frees up a lot of time for her to do things she would rather be doing.
Tina B.

[Corsetted Nikki]

My wife says my butt looks fantastic when I'm dressed! She says the garters create a particularly alluring effect.

[Bev06 GG]

Hi Tabitha,
I have copied an old post I did ages ago about the advantages and disadvantages of having a CD as a partner and below you can read what I put. I think though it is mainly accepting SO's who would see anything at all remotely advantageous about it. I think anyone who wasn't quite sure about her feelings toward it would automatically switch off to the advantages.


=Advantages

He loves to go shopping with you and doesn't mind how long you take in the shoe shops or boutiques.
You dont have to hide your latest new pair of shoes and lie when he finds them telling him that youve had them for ages
When you ask him if your bum looks big in this dress he's a tad kinder with the answer because he knows how hurtful criticism can be.
He has developed his dress sense to a standard that you can ask him for an honest opinion about what suits you and looks good
You can borrow his mascara when you have inadvertantly run out and are due to walk out the door at any moment
If you dont have the right coloured lippy for a particular outfit the chances are he does
He doesn't mind how many hand bags you have stashed in the wardrobe
You can borrow his clothes and sucessfully mix and match that new skirt you just bought
He always has two matching earings that you can borrow because you only have odd ones

The Disadvantages

He takes as long as me in the bathroom
He always wants to wear his nice black top when you want to wear it
He takes ages to get ready and makes you late
He can never decide which outfit to wear.

Told you it was fun. So now its your turn.
Take care
Bev

[Laurie A]

my wife really seems to enjoy our love making sessions when i am dressed. it makes me wonder if she has some bi tendencies that she gets to act on with me as a surrogate. in any case i am thrilled to oblige!

[KandisTX]

you name it, she likes it My wife just loves ME regardless of what I am wearing.

Kandis

[Lilith Moon]

Mine has said several times that I just seem like a nicer person when I'm dressed. I don't regard myself as having two personas...it is always the same me but I guess I'm just more relaxed and at peace with the world and myself.

[suchacutie]

There are the little things: We now share facial-care products. We both get facials at the same place. She asks Tina's opinion since now she can get both a male and female opinion on any issue (Tina really tries to have a feminine perspective). As many others have said, Tina watches chick flicks where he doesn't.

But most importantly, Tina understands so much more than he ever thought of understanding. I can relate to my wife on a whole other level, understanding many of her day-to-day issues. That also means I can help her in ways I couldn't before. I really think that physically and mentally walking on the feminine side has brought us so very much closer, and has made her even more comfortable with our closeness and love.

best of luck!
tina

[karynspanties]

My wife likes the femme side. She likes my taste in clothes that I buy her, the fact that I do not have a problem cleaning house or helping with the laundry. We know men that WILL NOT help out around the house. She knows that the femme side is what makes me....me. Plus, it was my birthday yesterday and she bought me 3 new chemises and 6 new pairs of panties!!!:D

[allisonrn06]

My wife seems to like all of it now that she's accepted it. There have been times that I haven't thought of dressing that she's actually suggested/encouraged me to. And I've really come to enjoy our time shopping together. In general, I think it's opened up a whole new, wonderful dimension to our relationship, which was very good to begin with!!

[KimberlyS]

Tabitha, interesting topic. In the process of working through CDing issues awhile back my wife said that she married me for many of my feminine personality features. She just did not think of them as feminine at the time. Other than that she likes that femme time can make me more calm and less stressed. Otherwise she basically tolerates my CDing and wishes I did not need to wear feminine clothes or get out enfemme.