dressing OR sex

[teresa jeen]

my wife and i have a code. if she wants to have sex with her husband, she tells me i want a man tonight, if she just says "do me dammit" its cool to be dressed!

[Tiffany8]

sorry i can't help you. what is sex ?

:fp:

To answer the original Q. I would give up the CDing for sex anyday. Maybe thats cause I am single and havn't had any sex for over 2 years . I have been dressing for many years now, but have never gone farther then my front door with a bra on. And have never come out to tell any one ( other then on here ).

[stevie b]

We are in our 50's now, so it's not as important as it was when we were doing it all over the place.
Teresa, hope you get a `do me dammit` over the weekend.
xx

[MJ]

:fp:

To answer the original Q. I would give up the CDing for sex anyday. Maybe thats cause I am single and havn't had any sex for over 2 years . I have been dressing for many years now, but have never gone farther then my front door with a bra on. And have never come out to tell any one ( other then on here ).

just for the record it's been a long time for me over 4 years. finding that special someone is not a priority. thank to hormones i have no drive and my equipment just don't work with in designed parameters anymore .
besides when everything comes off i look like a wimpy looking guy with boobs anyhow.
and i knew coming in with hrt what would happen. you who can CD have the best of both world so i envy you ..

[Natasha Carlo]

I would choose dressing if the question ever came up for me.

I don't see sex as being a necessity in a relationship anyways. Sure it's great, enjoyable, and all of that, but it's not needed to still love someone.

I think what you'd want to tell her, is that you chose dressing because it's a part of who you are. And I'd make sure she knows that you LOVE her with all of your heart, with, or without sex.

[corynn]

Hello Everybody

Tiffany i know what it's like not leaving your house and going day after day seeing GG'S dressing in their clothes and looking so beautiful.

i know what your going through However life is so short to Hide and be in secret.

Take a chance go to your TG friendly Location and get some makeup done your nails your feet and dress really up scale sexy. the changes that are made. you will be surprised with the results.

once you'll be made to the illusion of passing for a woman you'll be very happy and FREE

The only person that will know who and what you are is yourself and well of course us too .

but we are all Sisters here

so throw caution into the wind have a good time and enjoy life.

and if some people question you on who you are

Just remember this YOU ARE FREE !!!!!!!!!!

Don't hide anymore go out as the woman in you and enjoy the world.( AS a woman )

Good Luck and Have Fun Sweetie

[charlie]

Hello Stevie!
I guess the question is then, how does your wife feel? Does she want to continue to have sex with her husband? Does she want to have her husband looking at lest sometimes like the man she married? You married her and became her partner. You owe her a vote as well.

[suchacutie]

I started to write but I'm not sure what can be said. We are in our 50s as well, and I can't for the life of me imagine sending sex out to pasture! OMG!

Likewise, Tina is not a sexual creature.

I really enjoy Tina, but stack Tina up against my wife's desires and Tina loses. Forsaking all others includes my fem. self! Giving up sex to dress???? OMG...not a chance!

tina

[Angie G]

My wife's health isn't that great with Lot's of pains so sex isn't all that often.We have talked about me lightly dressing for lovemaking But that hasn't happened yet.For the most part I just rather just dress.
Angie

[epsxyblkm]

I think that I am more of the exception than the rule. When I am able to let go and fully dress, I tend to think about sex. But, most of the time, I am thinking about having a male partner. I think that most of that urge comes from the fact that, since I am feeling like a woman, I want a man to see/want me as a woman.

I hope that does not make me a bad person.

[Susan G]

We are also in our 50's. Sex for my wife has become uncomfortable for her. We have chosen my Crossdressing as a acceptable substitute for Sex. I have been allowed to further step out, and increase my crossing events as I wish. I truely enjoy the higher level of crossdressing. For me, this has worked out well. I wear nail polish (toes) and panties full-time. Soon, I will have my own Lane Bryant cc. I cant wait to make purchases with my real name on the card..... Susan G

[flacindycd]

sorry i can't help you. what is sex ?

I've heard of that, its supposed to be fun... now if I only can find my remote!!!

[Deborah Jane]

Sex...Whassat?
It,s been so long since i used him in anger, i use him for stirring my coffee now

[T Sara Lynn]

Wow, thanks for all responses.
Because of her health, my wife has MS, along with the meds sex is a low priority for her. Her worry is that as it was very very important to me, the lack of it now would cause us problems.

I have recently been able to work out my gender and sexual sides, since then sex has not been so important, although nice when it happens.

Going to bed without the slap on etc, I am a bloke, so shouldn't be a problem, but one thing with MS (multiple sclerosis) is it deadens things, there is very low libido, so spontaneous intimacy is out. It gets very complicated.

Stevie, I could have written that! My wife also has MS, and her body reacts the same way, so her needs are essentially identical to your wife's. The Interferon she takes weekly doesn't help matters, either (although it has likely prevented a further progression of the disease).

My wife knows fully about me and my "identity", and although I don't plan on full time at this time, it could happen and she is okay with that. As far as sex with her goes when I'm dressed, well, I think that my saying "I could have written that" answers that. That said, she has said that I need to be myself and "comfortable" at any time. Any time! There has never been a discussion about me being TG or me dressing when we have had sex, and really, it's not an issue. It doesn't need to be, either. For those of you who are out to your wives, and finding enhancement to your sex lives because of dressing while in the act, well - wonderful! I mean that, there's nothing better than spicing up the bedroom life, but some of us, well, we are who we are, and dressing or being TS/TG/TV doesn't change a thing about our lives or the quality of our lives with our SO.

My wife did say to me, when I came to her, that "it's a good thing I'm a manly girl, isn't it?" I suppose, and it's even better that I'm girlier than she is, too!

Good luck to you, Stevie, and blessings ~~~~ Sara Lynn

[Miss Tessa]

I used to have relationships.

Now these days since I am a full tyme transsexual my sex life is rather complicated.

I have certain friends I never screw. Then I have the GG's and TG's I screw and am still friends with....Then there's the men I meet on the internet and where I am just looking to get busted down for one night or something and not really have anything serious.

So due to feeling brokenhearted from lots of failed relationships as a male with females and T girls, my sex life is much different these days and being a TS plays a role in that as well.

I like the idea of not being too attatched to any one person.