Quite possibly, you are wrong.Originally Posted by Debbie47
Why not take the advice in the spirit that it was offered instead of getting a bad attitude about it?
Quite possibly, you are wrong.
Why not take the advice in the spirit that it was offered instead of getting a bad attitude about it?
Since when are we targets for others criticism just because we are crossdressed? Two of these people had just seen me for the first time. It is rude to walk up to a total stranger and give advice. I was curious about the makeup person, but I never had a chance for him to do my makeup as I never saw him again. I am not upset but just wondering if others have had this happen.
Debbie
If they had just seen you for the first time, then you had also just seen them for the first time. They're probably like that to everybody. I'll bet they give all kinds of unsolicited advice to gay guys, GGs, and everyone else.
Try to think of yourself as an ambassador. Most of the crossdressers these guys run into at their gay bars are pretty flaky and anti-social. Show them you're a normal person and don't take it personally.
Speaking of rude, you're the one classifying all gay guys together as people who are rude and give unwanted advice.
I've had plenty gay guys give me advice before.
http://picasaweb.google.com/racquel9...46284100797826
See that guy? He's a drunk drag queen dressed as the Bride of Frankenstein. He told me he could help me with my makeup. He also told me we should hang out. He also told me I should do drag shows. I didn't take the comment about my makeup personally, and I know I looked kinda ridiculous with fake eyelashes, but it was Halloween after all.
A few months ago a drunk gay friend of mine who owns a salon kept giving me advice about my hair, and he ended up cutting my wig for free in the parking lot and that one looks a whole lot better now.
I can handle gay guys giving me advice on my look. I much prefer it to the drunk pseudo-straight guys and pervy crossdressers I run into all the time hitting on me and telling me their sexual fantasies that involve me. I've never got that kind of rude treatment from the nice friendly gay guys who happen to give a lot of unsolicited advice.
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BTW, where were you? Adonis? The Dock? A smaller Cinci club?
Last edited by Raquel June; 11-13-2008 at 01:07 AM.
They probably fancy themselves a local version of the "Fab Five" from the late lamented "Queer Eye" shows.
I think you look fine and NOT ridiculous with the lashes.http://picasaweb.google.com/racquel9...46284100797826
I didn't take the comment about my makeup personally, and I know I looked kinda ridiculous with fake eyelashes, but it was Halloween after all.
Heh.I much prefer it to the drunk pseudo-straight guys and pervy crossdressers I run into all the time hitting on me and telling me their sexual fantasies that involve me.
I have given unsolicited fashion advice before, on this very forum. I try to do it rarely and tend to recommend only small tweaks to those who I think are doing a very good job otherwise.
Veronica
Rondelle (Ron) Rogers Jr.
Last edited by VeronicaMoonlit; 11-13-2008 at 02:18 AM.
If you believe in it, makeup has a magic all it's own -- Sooner or Later (TV movie)
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?- Marianne Williamson
Have I also not said that "This Thing of Ours" makes some of us a bit "Barefoot in the Head"? Well, it does.
I have a few gay guy friends and yes they can be brutal when it come to fashion.I had one last week tell me "Honey the jeans are fine but OMG get some new sneakers please!!Gary is so anal about shoes it borders on OCD so I tell him back off homo! We both laugh and let it go.
Take the advice use what you can and toss the rest.They really mean well its just the way they deliever the message it can seem rude I agree.
receiving unwanted advice- this was the biggest challenge for me when I first started dating my SO. I could not imagine why a CDer would be giving me fashion and makeup advice and I was quite offended at first.
Now i realize the motivation behind it and all is good.
but it definitately is hurtful when you think you look good and someone else gives unwanted advice. its like they are assessing you and pointing out all your flaws. Hang in there, like others have said you may never really know their motivation for being so free with their suggestions or maybe they are just the kind of people who like to cut others down to feel better about themselves. Either way, if they are strangers, don't give it a second thought. be yourself and be happy.
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