I preface this story by saying that I've been married for 35 years. Oldest son just graduated from college in June is no longer living in the house full time. Younger son moved out last year. Dressing increased during December when my wife flew out to help move her father from his apartment to assisted living.
Over the years we have had a couple of superficial discussions about my crossdressing.
Just after the new year, my wife hit me with "how do you think our marriage is going?" She was not happy. I thought I was doing a good job with hiding my increased activity. My jaw dropped when she told me what she knew including my femme name, my mailbox, my participation in this forum. She was concerned that I was going to transition (no thanks) and leave her. She had gone so far as to get names of lawyers.
We had a great discussion about where things were and that things had really not changed in the past month.
I have come to the conclusion that I'm married to a smart and perceptive lady (which I sort of knew) who is mostly open to my needs.
She indicated that she isn't ready to meet Charlene. I'm not sure she understands at this point that I'm Charlene.
Anyway, I am very glad we have a bond of trust. But I can see how something like this can spiral out of control and end bad.
Now, I wonder what the kids know.
Charlene D.