Dressing yourself vs. Being dressed by another.

[JenJenNumber9]

"For example do you, or would you feel more vulnerable, more accepted, loved and cared for, more turned on, or less in control of your own image or being, if your partner were to select and put on for you each item of clothing, wig and make-up."

My answer to every question is yes.

I've never been dressed head to toe by another but I have been dressed in parts by another and had my makeup done (en femme) a couple of times on set and I LOVED it.

For me having my makeup done was like being pampered.

And who doesn't like to get pampered ?

I like to do my own makeup and I feel quite competent at it but I loved seeing what a pro makeup artist can do given creative freedom.

I've never tried/experienced this in a "role playing" way but I think with the right company and wine, that too could be fun. Almost as much fun as having it taken off by another.

[Morgan Matthews]

I would love to be dressed by a GG. I have never gotten the courage to do it yet, but it is certainly something I think I would enjoy.

[krisinpink]

I very much like being dressed by a SO, GG, GF, or other T*girl friend. It is wonderful to 'let go' control, to see how someone else might dress you, and there is no doubt (for me anyway) the sense of acceptance associated with having another select your look. (clothes/make-up/jewelery etc)

Also, I think that there are fewer things as much fun as having your wife/GF/SO say something like, "why don't you go slip into .....(whatever)..... and come back downstairs, or wear this while we go out today.

:2c:

[jenniferTgurl]

Would love to have a GG dress me, and especially do my make up and style my hair. I hadn't really thought much about it until I read your thread but now it's on my "To Do List"

[ColleenShivas]

When I was in college (a long time ago!) there was an evening when about a dozen of us, equal numbers of male and GG, were hanging out together. One of the GGs asked what it might be like if men wore make-up, and somehow I got up the courage to suggest that we try it and see. (I did not know what CD meant at that time, and I was definitely not out.) It became a competition to see which of the men would look the most feminine. It was an edgy thrill to have make-up applied, the first time and by a GG. Unfortunately, I did not win!

[Jennifer_Cross]

I have yet to dress myself... I will one day try! But my loving GG ALWAYS does the makeup and lovingly dresses me with intimate detail.... It's the only way I know at the present time.

[Norah Jean]

From a gg perspective... I have found that participating in the crossdressing with my husband has been the best way for me to become comfortable with his desires and even turned on by his dressing. I do like fashion myself so having a muse is a lot of fun but at the same time I really like being able to help him and show him what I think makes him look really pretty. I feel a lot closer to him when I help him dress as a part of or before play time as opposed to when he dresses himself. Primarily the choices on what to wear, make-up, etc. are left up to him with me just giving advice, however, and I am glad it was brought up before this otherwise I'd feel weird in saying so, I have fantasized about playing out more of the forced femminization situation. I don't believe this is as much about the crossdressing as it is about my occasional sexual desire to play the dominant role.

[sissymaidpaige]

Paige,

I definitely prefer to be dressed by somebody else. It is an emotional and physical turn on for me to be around gg's who enjoy men that crossdress. I love the physical and emotional attention they give me. :-)

Paige

[danacd96]

I enjoy every aspect of picking out my clothes and dressing myself. The thought of someone else dressing me, not interested. On the other hand I would enjoy having someone do my nails, hair, and make-up once in a while. I think that would be nice.

[Susie Q]

I agree, everyone enjoys the support of a loved one. But even the thought of someone i know even KNOWING about my "hobby" scares me half to death let alone helping me... Unfortunately i dont think i have the type of family that would support my cd. thats why I have you all!!!

[linnea]

Having someone else dress me or choose the clothing that I will wear does not really appeal to me.

[sweetaimee]

It'd be like a dream come true if I met someone who was willing to embrace my femininity. If she dressed me, vs. I dressed myself, I'd interperet that as her taking an active role in it, and helping me, etc. I don't think I'd like it every time, but...

...absolutely. She could probably do a better job of making me look pretty than I can!

[Christine1953]

If my wife would only know how much I want to cd and accept it, I would love to have her pick out outfits for me. And doing make up would be a breeze since she is a Mary kay consultant and does facials and make for lots of women.

[darla_g]

I've done it both myself and having a close friend do the makeover. I have to say after having the makeover done by a friend it was a fabulous experience and would love to have that done again. and no it wasn't a fetish or sex thing at all. It was just a lot of fun.

[sissystephanie]

Over the 60 plus years of being a CD I have been dressed, by my wife, more than once. My dear late wife frequently chose my outfit, from the skin out! And she was always the one who did my makeup and fixed my wig. I would give anything to have her back to do it again!!

[Helen 2]

I was dressed by my mom when young, but that does not really count as I was under 10.....just a babe in the woods and not yet into the whole hormones or male/female relationship thing.

Three years ago, I went out and about for the first time, aided, abetted and supported by a wonderful GG friend who is very active in the PDX G/L/T scene. She arrived before I was fully dressed and made up, and while she did not help/assist per se, having her there and watch me and just chat together as I completed the dressing and make-up process was admittedly a very sensual experience...

We had a lovelly time together the rest of the day....mall, coffee at Starbucks, a late lunch at a restaurant and a movie. 10 hours in heels, and I LOVED IT!!

[jan croft]

I love being dressed by my SO - giving her control is a complete turn on!

[osteph]

When done by a wife or SO I think it would represent the ultimate expression of acceptance of their partners need to dress.
I have to confess that I dream about such a scenario.

[Emily01]

i pretty much have it down.....i'd summon the patience for someone to learn what i know - but i think at the end of the exercise i'd look better doing it myself.

[foxxigirlxoxo]

One of my biggest fantasies is being forcefully dressed by a woman and sexually dominated. Pegging especially, and maybe even having the girl bring in another man to mix it up a bit.. you can imagine the rest of the details...

[JamieToo]

I think that there are many scenarios here. I have never been dressed by anybody, but the idea is appealing from a number of perspectives. First, and the most desireable, would be if my wife was accepting of my crossdressing and participated in the process. I think that it would be fun to have her make me as beautiful, attractive, and sexy as is possible. Whether we just spent a day at home together, or went out. I would imagine going out with a GG would make the process easier because you would be with someone you trust, and you would be more likely to pass if you were accompanied by a GG. I also think that it would bring us closer together. The ultimate would be to have my wife dress me, then take me clothes shopping.

The second scenario is that of being forced to be feminine. This would be more like role playing (although being forced into feminization permanently holds a certain allure too). The idea of being submissive, which carries with it some humiliation aspect, is sexually exciting for me. Particularly if it includes the possibility of being discovered or outed.

Lastly, and the least desirable, but not undesirable, would be to be dressed by a stranger, like those services that transform you.

Great question with lots of great responses.

[Dragster]

[SIZE=2]I've been following this thread for a while, and until I read your post Jamietoo, I'd forgotten that I'd been dressed by a stranger in a Transformation shop (it's years since I posted the details). Well, I mostly dressed myself (in a cubicle) with clothes I'd selected from the rack, but the assistant did the wig and all the make-up. I remember feeling huge excitement from the whole process, but that was mainly from the fact that I was dressing in women's clothes and heels, rather than from someone else dressing me, EXCEPT.....when she put my corset on. I've got a thing for corsets, and while the laces were being tightened, I was in heaven. I even asked her to pull them as tight as she could get them just to prolong the process![/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]Tony[/SIZE]

[KellyT]

I have never had anyone dress for me, but I suppose it's a very strong wish/ fantasy. Every Christmas/ Birthday I hope my wife may have bought me some underwear or a skirt or something. She doesn't even buy me clothes for male me. That's probably cos I'm such a fussy person, that I've scared her off.

Anyway in answer to your question. Yes. Iwould love my wife to buy me feminine clothes

I feel prety much identical to what Jamietoo said above
I think that it would be fun to have her make me as beautiful, attractive, and sexy as is possible. Whether we just spent a day at home together, or went out. I would imagine going out with a GG would make the process easier because you would be with someone you trust, and you would be more likely to pass if you were accompanied by a GG. I also think that it would bring us closer together. The ultimate would be to have my wife dress me, then take me clothes shopping.

The second scenario is that of being forced to be feminine. This would be more like role playing (although being forced into feminization permanently holds a certain allure too). The idea of being submissive, which carries with it some humiliation aspect, is sexually exciting for me. Particularly if it includes the possibility of being discovered or outed.

Lastly, and the least desirable, but not undesirable, would be to be dressed by a stranger, like those services that transform you.

[denisecdfl]

Going to a makeover studio is the ultimate experience. Allowing someone to use their imagination and skill to transform you and select from a large inventory of clothing and wigs is an experience every crossdresser must try. I have learned something every time. All of the half dozen whose services I have used have gone out of their way to be pleasant and supportive. If you are among the lucky ones whose wife or friend will help you dress, you can take them with you.
The most fun is seeing the end result - something different each time. I can only hope to make myself look half as good ( and as young ) as they are able to do. Their advice and results can guide you to the looks and styles that you wish to attain. I have photos of all the different end results of my studio visits on my Flickr and MySpace profiles. Enjoy!!
Denise DeMann

[Kathi Lake]

Yes, it could be erotic. Yes, it could be sensual. At the same time, there would be an incredible innocence about it as well. I feel there is nothing wrong with dressing like a girl - and nothing wrong with wanting to dress others as a girl - as long as you don't hurt anyone else. There are times when you have to put others' feelings ahead of yours.

Being dressed by a girl would, I believe, be a very satisfying experience. In order for that to happen, you would have to know and trust that person enough to put yourself in their care. As a woman, I'm sure you have indeed worn different outfits "for them." Why? Because you knew it would give them pleasure, and giving them pleasure in turn gave you pleasure. Not exactly true altruism, but still everybody wins.

I can imagine the scenario (imagine me smiling beatifically); dimmed lights, soft music, wonderfully scented candles filling the air with the perfume of femininity and expectation. I come in and you tell me exactly what you're going to do. Sounds like your typical domination scenario, right? Not at all. You are telling me what is needed to be done to help me become the woman we both know is in me. I am listening because I know you have my interests and pleasure at heart. There's no real role-playing going on as we are both being ourselves - two people that have one common goal.

Both of us would be at the same time vulnerable and yet empowered. Both people would get what they want and would also get the satisfaction knowing that the other was getting what they wanted as well. Sigh. Call it desire, call it fantasy, but trusting another that much would indeed be an event to remember.

Kathi