You don't get it, Satrana.
Any partner who tries to manipulate or manage the other under the guise of love is not in a true relationship with their partner.
Two or more people who are inter-dependent are in true relationship with each other.
When one is truly in a relationship with another, one counts the other's needs to be more important than one's own, and vice-versa.
None seeks to dominate or control the other.
