I would want to let people know that this is not a just a fantasy game we are playing. This isn't something we choose to do or be. This is something that we are born into. No one would choose to lead the lives many of us have had to lead. The shame, the fear, the wasted money (when we purge and then buy more), the confusion, etc. All you ladies know what I mean.
[SIZE="2"]Melissa[/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]I'm still standin'
Better than I ever did
Lookin' like a true survivor
Feeling like a little kid[/SIZE]
Couldn't agree more, I really feel I had as much choice in dressing as I did in growing taller or having blue eyes. It is something that is part of me and is part of so many people, many of whom have yet to learn it. So, don't mock or pick on us, most of us are happy to talk and answer well thought questions.Originally Posted by Lissa Stevens
I think that you need to incorporate all the feedback that you have received to this post.
Oh yes, post a copy of your article for us to read.
JoAnne Wheeler
Believe me I have tried to fight it, but failed miserably to my own expence (loss of wife) sound like something I chose to you?
and as has already been said so many times, "we are every where and you would never know" (at least untill the day some one knocks you down and says ha how does it feel to be beat by a guy wearimg panties?)
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Oh sisters,
It has been a struggle to decide whether to go through with this...publishing the article that is. But I'm doing it, and it will be published in Portland Maine this coming Thursday, in the alt montly called "The Bollard." I ended up quoting three of the members who answered my first post early...Jess, Samantha, and Lorileah...thank you so much, sisters, for your words.
This got complicated because after I approached the editor of the paper about writing for him, he told me he was matching my coming-out article with another about a local homeless man who crossdresses and who is on the city registry of sex offenders for a conviction in the 80's. He says he is advocating for her and wants his publication of her story to lead to greater tolerance and understanding, and I (mostly) believe him, but I'm not completely sure about it...I think he may still also be motivated in at least a small part by a desire to sell papers with something which the average reader will find freaky and sensational...but I ended up deciding that if I withdrew my article, the story about the homeless guy would be all he would publish, so I decided to go ahead.
I will post the link to the on-line version of the issue when it comes out on Thursday, and I will be grateful for honest response to everything he publishes. I've only been out (even to myself) a few months, and I find I'm already feeling out the parameters of activism.
I also sent him the pic which is now my avatar and profile pic, and it is going to be published along with the article. That feels risky, but also right. And I do think that if we, crossdresers as a whole, are going to acheive greater acceptance in society, risks must be taken. OK, here we go...
Lisa
Please PM those of us being quoted with the editors name and email addy.
I am going to do my absolute best to NOT have these stories run together or concurent.
Adding that the homeless man is a cd and pedophile is sensationalism at minimum and won't help our cause one bit. The two DO NOT go hand in hand and he's going to give that impression, I'll help him change his mind and leave that out. Please PM us with it when you can.
Sorry, no help here, sever case of Analysis - Paralysis, I would be so worried about saying the wrong thing, I would be to affraid to say anything.
"I am Yin & Yang, North & South, Night & Day, Feminine & Masculine" [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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Simple answer:
Leave the labels on medical, food, and other containers that require them and keep them OFF the people
*hugs*
Zarabeth
(Formerly known everywhere as Lady Zarabeth
Jess,
I hear and share your concern...but I would respectfully request that you wait until he publishes to respond, based on what he does, not on what you've heard me say he told me he was going to do. I know this guy's work well...he's a progressive activist independent journalist. The overall impact of the issue will depend a lot on presentation, editorial content, etc. I'm wary of pre-judging. May I suggest a wait and see approach?
Lisa
AMEN dear Sister Zarabeth. (only a month until Scarborough Faire).Simple answer:
Leave the labels on medical, food, and other containers that require them and keep them OFF the people
*hugs*
Zarabeth
Kandis
Someone once told me "Put on Your big girl panties and deal with it". If they only knew, I WAS ALREADY WEARING THEM.
I wear the bras and panties so my wife doesn't have to.
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Oh course LisaI just don't want you to have any regrets contacting and dealing with this editor, and my other concerns that I posted.
I hope all does go well, please keep us informed and good luck with the story.
Even if it didn't go well, you tried your bestand it wouldn't be the first time and I assure you it won't be the last. Hope all goes well.
Amen to that Lady ZarabethSimple answer:
Leave the labels on medical, food, and other containers that require them and keep them OFF the people
*hugs*
Zarabeth
Dear everyone in the world:
Never give in to the temptation of applying what you believe about a group to an individual until you know otherwise. This vice of allowing stereotype to trump individual merit will serve you no purpose other than to ultimately degrade the value of your individual freedom.
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Hey, World... iam Normal.. Get used to it
Sisters,
Both articles are now on line, along with a note the editor wrote about how he came to the decision to publish them. Clickable links to both articles are easily found on the site's front page, at http://www.thebollard.com. (Comments made by forum members are included in a sidebar to my article.) The editor's note can be found by selecting "Editorials" from the "Views" pull-down menu, and then clicking on "Editor's note from the March 2009 issue."
If you decide to check them out, happy reading!
Lisa
Well thought out and well written article. Should have been on the front page. Thank you for the positive reflection of what crossdressers are about. Hopefully this can start to open the general public's eye.
Thanks again and keep up the good work.
"Some people like red cars. Some people like green cars. As long as that person doesn't run over your children, and into you picture window with that car, what the heck does it matter? Really......who cares."
So I like dressing like girl. BIG DEAL!
i would say, that we are like normal people, and the fact that we like to dress as woman is the same as every woman now a day went through, then women where bad seen for using pants, like every guy, the difference is that all women unite and fought for the right to dress with that they wanted, hey may be we should do the same?
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