Melissa,
Except for a few minor details, your original post could have been all about me. For the last three years, I have been living almost full time except when I have to present as male for family functions, or for some occassional reasons relating to business. When I first moved to San Francisco, I had no idea what I was going to do. I brought male clothes and female clothes. But from that first day, there has never been a morning when I considered putting on the boy stuff. Yet, I have no desire for surgery. And I am conflicted about hormones because I like being "functional." I can still do the "boy" thing, but it always leaves me very emotionally agitated. And I have no idea how I pass considering my waxed brows, long hair, and long manicured nails.
I had dinner tonight with a transgender friend, and we were discussing this very concept. I think the term "non-op" could apply to us.
Too bad we are on opposite coasts. I think we would enjoy getting together for further discussion.
Wendi
PS - Years ago I had a business trip to Kitchener (as a boy). Very lovely place.
