Worried about going out in public

[SuzanneS]

Melissa,
I really, really, really want to head out in public, but I have alot of practice to do yet....and I would really like to find a friend or two to go with. I'm taking a little bit of a trip tomorrow and am going to stop at a couple of places in drab and going to try and find some nice dresses and skirts to go out in.....I've never been out as Suzanne, and I've never shopped around here for Suzanne as my male alter ego...I am scared poopless about it already, but I am amping myself up about it and am trying my best to build my confidence up for it. I guess I really don't have any good advice for you, but if I can actually drum up the confidence to go shopping tomorrow, I hope you can find the confidence to go out as Melissa. I know it may not seem too much for me to do what I am planning on, but trust me, to me it is. I wish you good luck and I hope I have some myself.

Suzanne.

[Melissa Charlotte]

Thanks for all the advice girls..made for interesting reading!

Im planning to take it slow. I am going to go out for a night time drive enfem in jeans and a dress type top.

[Kaz]

Thanks for all the advice girls..made for interesting reading!

Im planning to take it slow. I am going to go out for a night time drive enfem in jeans and a dress type top.

Hi Melissa, The first times I went out I did this too. It gets you used to being out en femme, without being "out". Then park up somewhere where there isn't anyone - I have used carparks, out of town shopping areas, etc... get out of the car and get used to walking around outside. Practice walking, smiling, get a feel for yourself.

Next move I got out and walked around with others in the distance.. realised that from a distance no-one gave me a second look! My confidence grew... Once you feel more confident about yourself, you behave more confident.

I've practised a lot with make-up, and to support Tracy Victoria, yeah I have got changed and done my make-up in the car... and the reverse before going home! I've found some good spots close to home where I can do this easily... Once you know your look, this is relatively easy to do.

I have had a ball sat in my car doing the final touches to my make-up with people walking past - that's what vanity mirrors were invented for!

I am still learning slowly though, so yeah, for me it is also bit by bit.

Last time I was away from home in a hotel I ventured to the bar area to be seen from a distance, though got closer to people than ever before. On the way back to my room I took the lift. Just checking my face in the mirror when the doors opened. I spun round and there was a guy there waiting! He smiled the most wonderful smile as I left the lift - he'd just clocked a girl checking her face in a world of her own... his face said it all - I passed! I giggled a bit, smiled and fluttered my eyes... and yes as I walked off I looked back and he was still smiling - not an "I've just clocked a tranny" smile... something else!

That has given me even more confidence, but I haven't been able to get out for a few weeks...

Kaz

[Tracy_Victoria]

I've practised a lot with make-up, and to support Tracy Victoria, yeah I have got changed and done my make-up in the car... and the reverse before going home! I've found some good spots close to home where I can do this easily... Once you know your look, this is relatively easy to do.

Thanks Kaz, I'm sure many Girls use this method for descretness

I have had a ball sat in my car doing the final touches to my make-up with people walking past - that's what vanity mirrors were invented for!

Kaz

LOL very true, how many girls do you see in a day retouching there makeup. maybe there all trannies!!!!

[Sam-antha]

This thread has indeed gone to a lot of places.

One of them that I am no so keen on is changing in a car. Doing that at night is no more difficult than doing it in the daytime, except that the light is so poor that you could make horrible basic overlooks.
But it does work with lots of practice if everything is to be right. Checking lipstick in a mirror in a car is not that easy, at first, especially if you are putting it on in the car.

You do not say if you are living at home/by yourself/with others. (If you did, I missed it).
I say, do the change at your living place and go out. In the dark if necessary, ( under an umbrella ) and just go out.
Clubs will not really help in the short run...... you will still want to get out and waiting for a club meet will sort of give a deadline on a day that yo may not feel too confident and confidence is all.
What to wear. A skirt of course. That will be your aim in the long run. Do it now and it will be one less hurdle.

~Samm

[Altema]

Wait!! Going out in public by definition is getting noticed? Isn't it? If you didn't get noticed then did you really go out in public? Lol

My stratagy has always been... Bust right in the front door.. Like you own the place!! Walk with your head held high.. Project an attitude that says you belong there dressed as you are and no one will give you a second, closer inspection.. Don't be timid and try to blend into the walpaper because all eyes will be drawn your way.. Like your trying to hide something..

Yeah I get noticed.. But I have had no issues with anyone..

That's my plan and its served me well..

Re: Karen Hutton 04-07-09 #2....

Believe me girls, it works! I could never really "pass", but because I look and act like I belong there and do that/go there regularly, people see a woman, and not a man in a dress trying not to be noticed!

[Di]

my first time was out with a social group of cross dressers, so that made it easier.

Monica

If you are nervous about it this would be the best way to go....google tg/cd groups in your area and go to one of their group functions. Be alot of girls there to support you and maybe even give you tips. So if you are stressed about it ...this would be a great first time option. Safety in numbers and others there for support.

[grace@4]

im in the east of england. North a london really

Hi melissa am l live in dartford kent and never been out and would love to go out in public as soon as l tell my friend that l CD there lots of places to go in london and we got one in dartford but never been there so thats gonna be my starting point so gonna get the best outfit for that nite

[Angel.Marie76]

so much has been said already, but I'll second a few ideas: Social groups/support groups, go out with others, and confidence!