I knew in 1978 that there were others, after a Cher show at Ceasers in Las Vegas. One guy played Bette Midler, one Diana Ross and a third played Cher. I wanted to turn in my letchers Badge, as I was at the stage and could have touched them as they struted and danced by. Quite a bit different from most of us, but some of you are very well gifted in the presentation of or Hobby.
This is certainly a wonderful site. Go Gurls!
Lonely at first... then realised there must be others like me, but in the wilderness... then the internet...
This suite of forums has quite possibly changed my life...
I would like to really thank the people who put it together... awesome vison..
And as for the people here...
When you realise that you are part of a much bigger community it is so empowering it defies words...
This place is so important... sorry... off thread!
I always knew, I saw women all the time in womens cloths (sorry, couldn't resist)Originally Posted by Sonia Greene
Yes, this forum has made me feel like I am part of a community, being able to ask questions, or give advice is priceless.
BUT, I would still give anything to actually meet another CDer, face to face.
"I am Yin & Yang, North & South, Night & Day, Feminine & Masculine" [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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Yes, I feel very fortunate to have found this site. I, too, felt lonely and alone in my CDing. What a thrill and a relief to find others and a great place to communicate with them.
warmly, Linnea
Hi Sonia well said.
Yes Sonia I am with you. Coming here and reading about all of you has helped me more than I can ever say. It would be so nice to someday meet some of you in person and exchance thought about things. I did not choose this but life is easier for me now that I have embraced Jolene and express her.
I do have to add ........ I Love My Clothes.
I was about 13 when I first realized I wanted to wear women's clothes. I knew then it was unusual and was smart enough not to talk about it.
As I grew up I became aware that I was not unique, but at the same time was unaware that there were so many of us. I spent much of my adult life keeping this side of me at bay, and was largly successful. However, I always felt that I would need to embrace it someday.
Now in my fifties and with the opportunity to dress I have indeed embraced it as much as I can, and oh how I enjoy my female side
The advent of the internet and its online tg community has been a wonderful bonus to us all. I now know just how many of us there are and, more importantly, just where I fit in to this community. This has helped me come to terms with my female nature and to make the most of it.
As far as acceptance goes I regret that we still have a long way to go. But somehow I feel that it will get better, although not as quickly as we all would like.
I feel lucky and gifted to have this female side of my character and it's great to be part of a such a wonderful community.
Luv
Susan
...I dont think I was ever depressed about it (my crossdressing) but I
was quite concerned, having to live in this black body and have to whitch
my macho, manly manerisms off and my female manerisms on.Just knowing
that others on this earth though as I did, did as I did, looked in the mirror
as I did was and is a growing comfort.I thanks God in heven for this gift he
gave to me.I am no longer concerned about who I am or who I transform
myself to be..........dana.
For me, it wasn't just that there are others out there that like doing something, that everything I had been "taught" or "told" was somehow wrong, sick and depraved, but that most everyone here are really quite normal people. Some even have very normal relationships with loved ones.
This is a major part of the reason that has led me to actually believe my wife when she says she accepts my CDing, rather than just saying that to appease me. Does that make any sense?
For years and years I thought what the #&%@* is wrong with me? Yeah, I saw the entertainers mentioned, Flip looked good!, but that was mostly played for laughs.
Me? Shame, remorse, guilt, anger at myself, depression et al.
Then I found this site! Do I hear a Halleluah?
Comfortable in my own skin.
"Never underestimate the power of human stupidity, and never cease to be amazed by it!" Lazarus Long
You bet your sweet brassiere I do. For years I had no idea if I was gay, some one-of-a-kind freak, or what. When I finally was able to do some research on crossdressing (this was 25+ years ago) the only material I could find was psychological textbooks that treated it as an illness and recommended shock therapy as a "cure". Not a whole lot of help for my self-esteem, I tell ya.
Only years afterward when I discovered that I'm not alone, and that it's quite typical for a crossdresser to be heterosexual, did I finally start to accept who and what I am.
ralph
That's the key START..some of us didn't take this to heart from the gate and through endless efforts tried to supress it for years, lock it away as a dirty shameful secret..
You just don't rub away 40 years of filth by wipeing the top layer of dust off, plenty of tarnish yet to polish..
I discovered that I was not alone when I was about 12 years old. It was the early 60's and I found a book about sex and there was a chapter on transvestites. I had been dressing for 7 years by that time and really did think I was the only one in the world who did this. This was a long time before the internet. I find it amazing all the information we have at our disposal now because of the internet! It must have been a very lonely life for a crossdresser a century ago.
Tho I must admit that I nver really felt that I was alone, discovering this site has been a big boost for my dressing up, especially with all the great advice that many of you have provided.
I see that there are a lot more of us than I had ever imagined! This forum is proof enough.
Yes, I have felt alone in the past, even though I knew there had to be others like me. Joining the forum here helped get rid of that feeling!!
Shall we give three cheers for Crossdressers.com? Hip, hip..........!!
(I gave my thanks before writing this)
Sonia
Thanks for all exchanging your experiences, which reinforce our group strength....
I felt so alone. One weird kid. Years later i discovered a few magizines at my local porn shop--"Ladylike" was helpful. Also "Transformation". I went to library and found almost nothing. But eventually our library got computers, and then went online. Amazing, thousands of cds read, "Fictiomania"! Felt great when I got online myself.
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