am I the only one who LOVES being a cd?

[Phyliss]

I never really "hated" the idea that I was a CD nor did I dislike myself for that reason. There were many other reasons for my dislike of myself. Years of searching and learning about me have been helpful.

YES!!! I do enjoy being a Crossdresser. Sometimes it is a bit difficult and many times it's really expensive, however I wouldn't change a thing.

[jasmine57]

Gabrielle-
I totally agree with you. I love being a CD and don't really care what others think. I had a hard time accepting it at first but once I didi life has only gotten better. I feel like I've finally found who and what I am and wouldn't give that up for anything. Thanks for this thread, it seems like lately the only reponses I've been making here is to defend myself for who I am. I don't mind defending my feelings but it's a lot more enjoyable just sharing them. That's the reason I originally came to this site.

[Marshchild]

I'm another one who loves being a CDer - my wardrobe would be so much duller if I wasn't! I also love not having a problem with femininity per se; life would be so much less interesting if I considered 50% of the world off-limits, so to speak.

[Patricia1]

If I could be any more in agreement with your, it would have been me who started this thread. I am in love with crossdressing because only in that way can I truly be who I am at the core of my heart.

[LOVE2]

i to love2 dress up and look good i do this before work and after every day and i love it

[tinachristina]

Hi Gabi,

You always leave a nice word or two on my posts . So here is my turn .
It has been a long time that I have been CDing and in my opinion , life of a CD is divided in multiple stages. We all are in different stages of our life and hence are either frustrated or happy with our so called condition. I guess the initial guilt is extremely strong. Add to it the male ego we are born with and add to that the society's view .If we have a different feeling which does not concur with society , we feel guilty and troubled. I started from guilt went through acceptance to finally enjoyment. In between I had my own shares of sorrow and self hate. I was ranting always to my SO and myself of how difficult sometimes it gets to live two lives( even superheroes don't come out in open ) . Now that I am happy about it I write positive posts but it took some time and appreciation from others ( though not from relatives). The best thing is not to get frustrated with feelings expressed by other but helping them as always with your sweet suggestions. That way I see less ranting and more happy feelings . And if we feel happy who cares about society.

BTW: My wife said hello to you. I plan to bring her to forum soon
Tina

[2b.Lauren]

Although, I am completely in love with being a CD, I totally hate the many frustrations that are not from my own choosing that tangle themselves into my enjoyment and frequently rob my joy and happiness. We are all on a personal, sometimes private, frequently intangled, journey of acceptance. Where we are on this path can change like the weather depending on how it interfaces with others that are a part of our life. We encounter a greater amount of indifference from the world around us and we have to share that world with those we love, and many that do not love us. This eventually can wear us down and make us feel less empowered or in love with who we are. So then those feelings that many people are expressing come out in threads here. Many are crying out because they just don't have the depth of understanding and acceptance necessary to feel empowered. Purging, self loathing, and hate are all parts of that experience, and those of us that have been at this for a long time, and have been totally honest with ourselves and our feelings have some how come out of that with a deeper understanding of self. Leading to that acceptance.

I love the thread and agree so much. I just love being a crossdresser so very much and could not invision my life not having those very soft things around me. However, I think my helping nature just seems to gravitate so much to those that are struggling and writing about these feelings and their inner struggles. Here is where I think we have such a great gift for those that are hurting, because we can share the wisdom that we have gained.

Thanks,
Lauren

[Pink_Lace]

i absolutely love being who i am, which is the reason for my occasional depression spells, i am perfectly fine being a guy and don't try to look more femme, i just prefer women's clothes (especially a cute skirt & heels) and when i can't be myself it really starts to get to me sometimes. but i wouldn't change who i am for anyone or anything.

[Raquelle C]

I figured I'd chime in here, b/c I just recently got over the 'stage' of not accepting my femme self. Being in my mid 20's now I previously have been really confused about my CDing. I remember purging as early as a young teen, I had accumulated a few articles of clothing early on and ended up purging all of it. Thankfully that was my only full out purge, per se'. I have often pushed my clothes and other thoughts aside for weeks and sometimes months at a time. Of course they only come back in due time and even stronger than ever. In my early 20's I started to accept my self and things really took a turn for the better, better understanding of my self that is, when I found this great place! Now I do truly embrace and love being a CD. Through the great people on here I have also helped my SO get a better understanding of my CDing and much more acceptance overall. Very true how most guys do not get to enjoy this great extension of one's self and character.

[Carly D.]

It's not a matter of loving or liking cross dressing but rather, for me anyway, it is just part of who I am.. I can't shake it.. I do accept it... but as far as the purging aspect goes for me I purge on occasion mostly clothes that are useless for me.. which is to say mostly anything such as pantyhose that are beyond wearable, tights the same.. and shoes (yes that's right) as well as clothing that is worn out.. shoes have never been worn out but rather just don't get worn by either they are uncomfortable (womens shoes?? never uncomfortable are they??) or just never thought of to be worn.. mostly it is comfort that rules the wearing time and therefor the reason they get tossed (purged)...

[Megan_Girl]

After many years and numerous ups and downs I can now say that I love who I am and who I am not.....

[TJ Tresa]

Yes Gabrielle, I too love crossdressing and have long before coming here to this site/forum. I have a loving wife who has helped me find the peace with it and she encourages me to be me, weither Tresa or my alter ego. I'm fine with who I am and only wish I was more passable so I could go out in puplic. Thanks for this thread, Hugs TJ.

[Holly]

Well, I love being me... and CDing is a part of me. Please keep in mind, however, this forum is full of people who are at various places in their life journey. Self-discovery is an ongoing process. This community exists to support and encourage one another no matter where along the path we find ourselves.

[2b.Lauren]

Thanks Holly I agree with you totally. I am more in envy that you said it in only 3 sentences!

[vivianann]

Thanks for the thread. I too love myself as I am, and I love being enfemme, and I love the freedom to be out and about enfemme. I find that society as a whole seems to be accepting, since I have been out and about in the last couple of years.
I agree with Di's post also, she is 100% right about everything she said in her post.

[Susan Watersfield]

Gabrielle

Yes, yes, yes...... I so agree with you.

I love being a CD and like you feel it is a gift to be enjoyed. My only regret is that I am still in the closet and have yet to enjoy going out. But it will come.

Thank you so much for putting into words what I feel.

Luv

Susan

[Greymancd]

I have been cd'ing for less that a year now altough I have dabbled with it at times thoughout my life. I can honestly say that I do not know where I am at, if it last now the rest of my life or if the desire fades. I do know that I am enjoying the pink fog I have read about here and I do not loathe myself for these feelings I have. I enjoy dressing immensely. I love noticing womens clothes and how pretty they are or how cute a top is and how some shoes are to die for! I love putting on makeup and a wig and looking as feminine as I can. I hold back because I am married and I am having to let my wife absorb this in slowly, she is starting to accept me and is helping me in some ways with clothing. The desire in me is for us to go out as girlfriends I think it would be fun and could be for both of us but that is down the road. I love crossdressing and eventually, being a crossdresser. I have no desire to change my sex and I do not feel I was born in the wrong body I just like dressing and feeling the feminine side that is part of who I am!

[Kelli Michelle]

I love it too!!! I would do it more, but with family obligations, it is always a balancing act. I am not ashamed about it, but I know if I make it more a part of my life, my marriage would be probably over. Still, when I AM out, I love everything about it, clothes just being a part of the equation. I like the inner peacefulness, the sharing with others, and the ability to act as feminine as I want.

I told my wife that I will NOT be quitting or purging (yeah I said that the 3rd time I did it), as I would feel like a large piece of me would go missing, and that that would affect me in many ways.

I used to think there was something wrong with me that I actually loved it, but no more.

Thanks for the thread.

[Annemarie]

No, I don't love or hate my cding, I just accept it will always be a part of me for good or ill. At the moment I am completely bored silly by it and haven't dressed in ages, going thru' one of my regular tranny blues periods, when I wonder why I bother doing it.

[LA CINDY LOVE]

I am having the time of my life, yes there are some ups and downs, but I have walk on the wild side and I love it.


LA CINDY LOVE

[GaleWarning]

I would love to "come out" to the landlord and landlady, but my SO thinks they will throw us out.
So, although I am growing increasingly comfortable with my love of CDing, I feel I ought to respect my SO and stay in the closet.
I've dealt with the guilt; I've dealt with my own fears.
Now I have to figure out how to deal with society's fear.

[Sophie A Walker]

My answer in the context of the question is basically Yes.

But as I have just posted somewhere else, I think it is in lots of ways the wrong question.

A better question for me is am I proud of CDing and increasingly in my life I find myself thinking, Yes I am proud, the journey to where I am has had t's ups and downs and even at the moment I find I get irritated at some people in my life, who are ashamed of me and expect me to change because of that.

But I am proud of who I am despite them.

[KimberlyJo]

I take offense when people call this a condition, sickness, disorder, affliction, or any other derogatory term.

I couldn't agree more! Count me into the YAY for crossdressing group :D :D :D

I wish I had time to write more, but I have to go to work...

[vikki2020]

I totally love it! Now. I also loved it when I first started dressing, and that's why I'm still here 40 years later.I will say that is a lot easier now than it was then, however.We all have to evolve at our own pace,in different environments, to get to accept our fem side. I think a lot of it has to depend on our age,because for me, if I were 19 today, with the internet opening so many doors, and attitudes in general being much more accepting of all lifestyles,things would be much different!I'm just happy that I can enjoy them today

[Fran Moore]

Hi Gabrielle,

I think your observations are valid. CD'ers come from all walks of life and many different settings, and we all have challenges to overcome because of who we are. I think that having an accepting spouse/SO goes a long way towards "happiness" in our lives. Also having full self acceptance of who WE are can bring much happiness and fulfillment as well.

Being transgendered completes me, and blends my male and female sides together both spiritually, as well as emotionally, and I wouldn't have it any other way. As for an explanation as to "why", I am expecting to have that answer when I pass from this world into the next, although the importance of gaining that knowledge has faded with age.

Celebrate your life, each and every day and those around you will benefit as well.


Suzanne