It's hard to put a limit to ourselves but we must. Does it worth to put at risk an entire marriage for some little pleasure?
Karen said that we must be aware 'cause we all know where men have their brains but we shall not forget that even though we are cds, we are still men; sometimes we could act thinking with the same head, and that's why we must be carefull.
I'm afraid of other but we all sohould be more afraid about ourselves.
Rita,
Thank you for the reality check. It's every easy to step over the line without thinking about it. Hind sight is better than for sight, or something close to that. What may seem unharmful to one, is a giant pitfall others.
Thank You again.
Hugs,
Alice
Hi Rita,
I agree with you. I think it is important to keep this site in perspective and don't get carried away. I'm happily married and intend to stay this way. At the same time, I am so happy that I have found such a wonderful place to express myself and chat with like-minded people. Boundaries are important and everyone should have their own and live by them. Thanks for sharing.
Eve
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Do something special for yourself today. You deserve it!
Well said, Rita! Thanks for your courage and honesty in posting!!
Love
Lynne
I get hit on by guys daily online as well as in public, at work, or at college parties. The hormones I've taken for years prevent me from appearing too masculine, which means I'm always feminine. While I do still somewhat enjoy the attention, I would like to say that I have never nor would ever flirt with a guy. I'm reserved strictly for the pleasure of hot bisexual biological females of the world only.
Charlie
I used to flirt a little; then one night I realized that it was too easy to be swept away by the fantasy and possibly hurt someone else or myself or both. So I quit. We have to remember that flirting, because it is ambiguous, can send all kinds of signals, sometimes dangerous or ultimately hurtful ones.
warmly, Linnea
I am totally confused. Are you Erika, Victoria or Arianna?Originally Posted by Arianna Daniels
I hear you Rita. This is one reason I became Ericka who was a two-fisted tomboy and left no doubt in anyone's mind where they stood with her. Victoria, who I was previously, was a prude and a push over and easily influenced. I was really freely being myself once Ericka came along. There was no doubt in any admirer's mind whether he'd crossed the "line" or not.
Very nice post Rita, a great reminder for all of us in committed relationships.
As mentioned above, I have a woman's wedding ring that I wear as well. Not that I frequent places where I'd be likely to be hit on but just in case, people tend to notice the ring.
Despite a ring though, many people out there are so indiscriminate when it comes to their wedding vows. It amazes me to even think about how often I hear of people cheating. The thought repulses me. I love my wife. Dealing with my tg issues is hard enough for her, I'd never fathom bringing an affair into the mix.
Like a corpse deep in the earth I'm so alone, restless thoughts torment my soul, as fears they lay confirmed, but my life has always been this way - Virginia Astley, "Some Small Hope" (1986)
Sunlight falls, my wings open wide. There's a beauty here I cannot deny - David Sylvian, "Orpheus" (1987)
Hi Rita---nice to see you on CD.com again---and you are right about flirting on the internet---unless you really want to hook up with somebody it's best not to do it---otherwise the temptation may lead you to do something which you wouldn't otherwise do and which you may regret later---
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Rita, I join those who appreciate your courage in posting this. The little compliments we may receive online can possibly lead us in a direction we wouldn't otherwise go....especially if we are easily led, which I can be. Thank you.
Welcome back to the forum Rita !
too many times! So, encouraging a guy along, for whatever reason, would BOTHER me!
Worse yet, I know quite a few get off having, "Internet sex". Which does nothing for me! Except I'd feel "dirty" doing that!
But, HEY! That's just me. If anyone out there enjoys that, COOL! At least it's SAFE SEX!
Nice to see u again, Rita!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Hiya Rita!
Thanx for the post,... great seeing you here again... welcome back
jenn
While it's each to their own.......it's not so disasterous Rita, scary at first, I admit but quite the joy once you've opened up.
I do flirt a little on line but if the guy gets out of line I just say hey bud you crossed the line with me goodbye.
Some are very nice most are twits.
This is so true! It get worst as you go out to the same places I had that happen to me at the store I shop at and the guy always waited on me and on his last week working he was saying the right thins and the girl in me fell for it and the things that get in your mind! I am in a very loving relationship with my wife as well and 100% hetro. I am thinking now when I dress I must be 100% Hetro girl I do if I have to when dress reference a "Husband" as a safeguard
I wear an engagement ring and wedding band enfemme just in case I need a husband excuse.
