I've written of my wonderful wife here and there. She has been aware of my TG issues since before we were married although the depth of this was only revealed within the last few years. We remain deeply in love and bless her heart she works so hard to get her head around this. Whether she moves beyond her current state of tolerance and boarderline acceptance remains to be seen. That's not so much a concern now, I really have nothing to complain about.
There's so much said in here about disclosure and states of being in our relationships. But think about what it takes for a significant other who struggles with being with one of us to put up with the whole thing. Here are some issues which come to mind with mine.
- Running interference (calling before returning home, fibs about where I'm at when on outings, etc.) lest family &/or friends find out about what hubby is up to.
- Having no one to talk to about this, her choice but reality nonetheless.
- Her own feelings about whether anyone out there perceives anything TG about me because of presentation of shaved legs, longish fingernails at times, ever so slightly groomed eyebrows, etc.
- And the ultimate leap of faith, accepting the fact I enjoy being out and about and worrying for my safety and that someone we know would recognize me.
This last one springboards into something that is beyond a leap for her, giving me her blessing so that I can attend Diva Las Vegas for several days in girl mode. Any worries she might typically harbour during one of my regular outings will be compounded exponentially. What can I do or say to help alleviate what she is about to experience? SO reples would be particularly helpful of course but I'd love to hear some advice from anyone who has experience with these sort of things.