Dear Belle-
What I've found, as a fairly new returned member to this site, is that there are as many points of view and ways of expressing them as there are members here. I don't always agree with what was expressed or how it was expressed. Most of the time I find myself nodding my head in agreement with points of view that coincide with my own and thinking what an exemplary and intelligent person they are or muttering imprecations and wondering at the obtuseness of people I don't agree with.
What I guess I'm trying to say is that if something is said that is hurtful or makes me angry, I don't necessarily assume that everyone here feels the same way. We don't. And I'm sure the vast majority of us do appreciate all the understanding, help and support we get from the natal women here.
Hugs...Joni Mari